Book titles, dating, and walking away ...

To some, this might seem almost unreasonable, but I think books are a big indicator of a person's intellect and where they wish to go, or where they are, in life.

What are your experiences and thoughts, and what's on your bookshelf/carry-on bags and such?

I think your logic isn't correct.

I consider myself a person of intellect and I believe the University of London would also for granting my PhD, but I read unintelligent junk when I actually do read ... which is rarely because I prefer TV. I read enough scientific material for work so in my down time, I try to relax my brain, not stimulate it. You would not guess that I am a very driven person who spends a lot of time in thought over something intellectual if I am on the plane reading the latest issue of Vogue, would you? You wouldn't see the copies of scientific literature I also have in my bag if I am too tired to read work-related papers on the flight.

As far as taste goes (for the face you made about the woman's book choice) -- I have never dated someone who shared all the same interests I do. That makes things more interesting and expands my horizons. Enjoyment of some hobbies, especially reading, to me is often an individual endeavor anyway. Your distaste for someone's reading material is like mine for boxing. I wouldn't discount someone as a partner because he enjoyed watching boxing -- I just would do my own thing when a match is on.

I think you should use a person's reading material as only one criterion to assess a potential partner -- not the sole thing upon which to dismiss her. It sounds like you are being a book snob. Those are my thoughts.

Anyway, onto books! I am a big believer that what a person reads is a great indication of who they are, and whether they are fit to be with you. Two prime examples:

1) I was on a plane a few months ago, and started having a conversation with a woman who was very conventionally attractive, and through the flight, there were a lot of glances exchanged and what not - that is, until she put her book down to go to the bathroom, and I glanced at it, and saw that she was reading "I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell."

I simply could not deal with that, so the glances stopped and I decided to just go to sleep instead. Lost opportunity because of bad book for her.

2) Just on Saturday, I met a random woman at a bar who was also very physically attractive and could almost carry on a flowing conversation. When asked what her favorite book was, though, she said "Anything by Nicholas Sparks."

I made a face, and turned and walked the other way.

To some, this might seem almost unreasonable, but I think books are a big indicator of a person's intellect and where they wish to go, or where they are, in life.

Anyway, onto books! I am a big believer that what a person reads is a great indication of who they are, and whether they are fit to be with you. Two prime examples:

1) I was on a plane a few months ago, and started having a conversation with a woman who was very conventionally attractive, and through the flight, there were a lot of glances exchanged and what not - that is, until she put her book down to go to the bathroom, and I glanced at it, and saw that she was reading "I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell."

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I think your logic isn't correct.

I consider myself a person of intellect and I believe the University of London would also for granting my PhD, but I read unintelligent junk when I actually do read ... which is rarely because I prefer TV. I read enough scientific material for work so in my down time, I try to relax my brain, not stimulate it. You would not guess that I am a very driven person who spends a lot of time in thought over something intellectual if I am on the plane reading the latest issue of Vogue, would you? You wouldn't see the copies of scientific literature I also have in my bag if I am too tired to read work-related papers on the flight.

As far as taste goes (for the face you made about the woman's book choice) -- I have never dated someone who shared all the same interests I do. That makes things more interesting and expands my horizons. Enjoyment of some hobbies, especially reading, to me is often an individual endeavor anyway. Your distaste for someone's reading material is like mine for boxing. I wouldn't discount someone as a partner because he enjoyed watching boxing -- I just would do my own thing when a match is on.

I think you should use a person's reading material as only one criterion to assess a potential partner -- not the sole thing upon which to dismiss her. It sounds like you are being a book snob. Those are my thoughts.