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Sawyer76 is offline Sawyer76 Post #1  May 13,2010, 3:51pm
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Okay I am so confused over what happened, if I've been blown off or what the heck is going on here. Up until today, I was actually thinking maybe something happened to this guy...

I recently reconnected with an old coworker through facebook...we worked in same building together but only met once for 5 minutes so we weren't exactly friends or anything. He recently moved here for a job (within the same company. I no longer work at this company but he still does). We talked on the phone a few times about 2 weeks ago. Most of it was a "get to know you" type of conversation etc. I was really going into talking to him more from a place of friendship at the moment and wasn't being flirtatious or anything but he definitely was. He commented on my pictures online etc. From my persepective, definitely acting like someone interested in me. In our last conversation, last Tuesday I offered to help him look for a place to move and said I would show him some good towns to live in. We made plans to look at places Sat during the day and then go out at night to dinner. I didn't hear from him for the rest of the week but I mentioned that I had a busy few days so I wasn't surprised.

So Friday after work, I call him but got his voicemail. We ended up playing phone tag that night and never caught each other to talk but left each other messages. Saturday morning I text him telling him to call me when he gets up to let me know if he still wants to go out today. I saw that the text didn't deliver to his phone until mid afternoon. So maybe his phone was off, died etc. But either way, I never heard from him.

By Sunday night, I still didn't hear from him and sent a text saying I was just checking in and since I never heard from him this weekend, just wanted to make sure he was okay. No response. Tuesday, I called his phone, no answer. I went to leave a vm but screwed something up and hung up. So I didn't leave a message but regardless, he could see my number show up. So by last night (Wed) I was getting really worried that something might have happened to him. After all, he moved to a new state for work and other than a few coworkers, doesn't really know anyone here so I started worrying if something happened, nobody here would really know. Last night, I sent him an email on facebook and just said I wanted to make sure he's okay since I thought we had plans last Sat and I haven't heard from him and hope everything is okay. Still no response.

Now....I would STILL be thinking something happened to him but I talked to my ex coworker who I am still friends with and she confirmed for me that he is in fact in work. He started some intense training this week at work so I'm sure he is swamped but that doesn't explain his disappearance this past weekend and lack of any response what so ever.

I have no idea what to think. I will absolutely NOT reach out to him again at this point. But I am soooo confused as to what happened. Am I crazy here? We weren't meeting up as a date or else I would just toss this up as being blown off. He is the one that asked for my help to look at places on Saturday and he was saying he was so happy and excited we had plans and being flirtatious etc.

He has literally dropped off the face of the earth. I would have thought maybe I said something wrong in our last conversation last week but he called me back on Friday night and I just missed his call. Can someone just be this rude to just disregard someone that was helping them? He completely ruined my Sat because I had no other plans and all week I have been wracking my brain trying to understand what happened here. I mean, it takes a sec to send a quick text saying something...anything...hey I'm not dead...right?
 
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did you make the first contact or did he? sometimes guys dont have the balls to say no to someone or they flirt just to boost their ego and they have no intention of it being anything more than a flirt.
 
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I thought we determined, quite some time ago, the Earth wasn't flat ... thus you can't fall off the edge?
 
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It's not flirting to go look at houses.

That's a plan, and that supports a theory of really busy.

It is, of course, still Lame of him to leave you wondering.

Personally, I would make two or three messages before giving up - especially if I know the person (and I'd be even more inclined to, if I know them to get overwhelmed enough to let messages slip. Some workplaces this is kinda common.)
 
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she made 56 messages already
 
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Nanette wrote :
did you make the first contact or did he? sometimes guys dont have the balls to say no to someone or they flirt just to boost their ego and they have no intention of it being anything more than a flirt.
we were actually connected through another friend. The friend told me the guy was having difficulty knowing where to move etc. So I sent him an email and told him if he had questions about towns that he could email me because I've lived here my whole life. He then sent me a friend request and replied that we should make plans to hang out. So I gave him my number. So, yes I sent the initial email but he sort of made it into more than I was initially planning.
 
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Nanette wrote :
she made 56 messages already

Then it's time to hang out at his house until he comes home.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
It's not flirting to go look at houses.

That's a plan, and that supports a theory of really busy.

It is, of course, still Lame of him to leave you wondering.

Personally, I would make two or three messages before giving up - especially if I know the person (and I'd be even more inclined to, if I know them to get overwhelmed enough to let messages slip. Some workplaces this is kinda common.)
No, I didn't say he was flirting about looking at houses. We talked for several days on the phone and it had nothing to do with houses. He was asking me questions to get to know me, telling me he was planning to contact me when he moved here because he thought I was attractive, commenting on my photos online etc. He made many comments about future plans of going places with me since he's new to the area etc. It was flirtatious. After days of talking for about an hour each time, the house hunting conversation came up and I offered to go out with him for the day.

What do you mean by "that's a plan and that supports a theory of really busy". I don't understand your theory.

And regardless whether it's a plan, does that make it less a big deal that he just blew the plans off and still has yet to reach out to me? I come from the theory that no matter how busy someone is, you can send a quick text or email at the very least.
 
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Nanette wrote :
did you make the first contact or did he? sometimes guys dont have the balls to say no to someone or they flirt just to boost their ego and they have no intention of it being anything more than a flirt.
Same can be said for the women.
 
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Sawyer76 wrote :
I come from the theory that no matter how busy someone is, you can send a quick text or email at the very least.
Just a theory? :P

Didn't they cover this one in "He's Just Not That Into You"?
 
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