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I am new to the online dating scene & dont know what the normal progression is; I met someone and have exchanged a few emails we seem to have similar interests & meeting in person would be a much better way to find out more but I dont know when is too soon to ask them out on a date? My concern is moving to fast since I am just a stranger on the internet. How many emails before asking for date? Should I ask to meet first or ask for phone number first? When do most women feel comfortable being ask for date and/or number?
 
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I prefer to suggest meeting at the first weekend after starting the communication.

I am likely to lose interest if meeting is not agreed eagerly in this timeframe.

In my experience, women who do not meet quickly have been those I had no interest in, once meeting, so the wisdom to meet immediately is confirmed on multiple reasons.
 
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Personally, if it were me I would prefer we talk on the phone a few times before we met. I feel like I would need to "know" you before we met in person. Good luck!
 
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What do you learn by this "knowing" over the phone?
 
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D_Lion;977511[B wrote :
]I prefer to suggest meeting at the first weekend after starting the communication.[/B]

I am likely to lose interest if meeting is not agreed eagerly in this timeframe.

In my experience, women who do not meet quickly have been those I had no interest in, once meeting, so the wisdom to meet immediately is confirmed on multiple reasons.
I agree.

Although I prefer one telephone call before a meeting. I want to hear the person's voice. And it also helps ensure they are available to date.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
What do you learn by this "knowing" over the phone?
That they speak the same language as you? Hopefully well?

To he11 with phone knowledge - I like to go in straight for the meet and greet with coffee - hopefully during the business day. This way you are time blocked. If it is bad, then your reason to go quickly is apparent. If it is good, then you lust for the next meeting.
 
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Maybe just a call to confirm the date, but I've done both... and I think when I've talked to them first I've made the mistake of filling in too many spaces that I have no business doing yet.
make sense?
That was chic speak for: analyzing way too much.
IMO, meet the person pretty quickly if you can..and definitely my favorite is for coffee during the day.
 
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NYCpigeon wrote :

I prefer one telephone call before a meeting. I want to hear the person's voice. And it also helps ensure they are available to date.
Yeah, BAD juju if you hear some other woman's voice in the background yelling at him.

Got it, got it.
 
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fireflynaps wrote :
Maybe just a call to confirm the date, but I've done both... and I think when I've talked to them first I've made the mistake of filling in too many spaces that I have no business doing yet.
make sense?
That was chic speak for: analyzing way too much.
IMO, meet the person pretty quickly if you can..and definitely my favorite is for coffee during the day.

What is "chic speak" for Kiss me NOW ?


Inquiring minds and all that.....
 
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6dle899 wrote :
What is "chic speak" for Kiss me NOW ?


Inquiring minds and all that.....
there is no chick speak for that!!
body language
body language
body language

problem is, mine's portuguese and his is chinese.
 
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