Limit on number of kids when dating a single parent?


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Sparkenwolf is offline Sparkenwolf Post #1  May 10,2010, 4:11pm
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Was wondering about thoughts of others who would consider dating a single parent.
 
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ideally my max is 0
 
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Nanette wrote :
ideally my max is 0

But could go to 0.15, in a pinch?
 
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Zero is a good number. If there are kids more important is/are the ages... Bratty little rugrats...
 
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Depends on how many you already have, how many more your partner has and, if you both want to add to the already existing family between the two of you. For some, numbers are not a big deal. My guess the minimum would be 2.
 
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I think two or three would be my limit. I have one and know how he is just by himself.
 
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I was once about to talk to a guy who had 5 kids ...
hey, but who am I to judge .

Seems to me that even the guys who have never been married and have no kids are open to any number of kids... Many of the guys I communicate with tell me that they have never been with a woman before with as many young kids as I have... but, they say, they don't think that should stop them from pursuing the relationship with the right woman. and, they'd rather go for it and at least give it a try.

Although I do not introduce guys to my kids, I do wonder sometimes whether it is a situation I would want, or whether I prefer someone with experience with more kids.
 
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At my age I am more concerned with the age and second do they live at home.

If they are old enough to be living on their own and are then the number is not so important.
 
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I have done it successfully and otherwise. I have no kids.

What I came to discover as most important, in the beginning (for me anyway), is whether the single mom truly intends to devote some of her limited free time to dating adventures. Some make that commitment (to themselves first, and eventually to you) and stick to it. Some think they want to, but really don't come through. This can become frustrating, as time spent together can be less than you prefer, either with or without the kids along. Unless the kids are very little (which I did not experience), the number of kids is not a significant factor I would consider. No octomoms, though.
 
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Sparkenwolf wrote :
Was wondering about thoughts of others who would consider dating a single parent.
I would consider it...the younger the better. I love small children and feel that it would be easier to become a positive part of their lives than if they were, say, teenagers . Of course, that isn't something I would worry about unless we became serious.
 
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