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Italo2275 is offline Italo2275 Post #1  May 10,2010, 4:21am
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Hi, I need some advice,
I have met this girl and went out twice, the first day we went out for coffee and the second time we went to the movies and for dinner, Yes I know it is very early to tell, but I am not feeling she is in to me. She takes like a day to respond to messages I sent, we do not have long conversations on the phone, she did say that she wants to go with the flow, but I am not sure what more I can tell her in our conversation, I think I have told her what my favorite color is and feel I need to see if she is attracted to me or not.
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Ummm.....you think you might be jumping the gun just a tad? Putting the cart ten feet in front of the horse?

So you met once and you went out on one single date - for all means and purposes you are total strangers who have not even scratched the surface of getting to know each other. What do you expect? Sounds like you want to jump straight into an established relationship from that where you call each other every day and share your lives just like that? Dating means just that - going out, doing some things together and through that getting to know each other a bit. A relationship and friendship will either grow out of it or not.

On the other hand there is a lot to be said for instinct. If you are sure that you are not just being crazy eager and desperate to be in an instant relationship, then perhaps your gut is correct in that she is not that into you.
 
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itsanewworld is offline itsanewworld Post #3  May 10,2010, 5:46am
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I think you're jumping way ahead of yourself. Attraction for women can sometimes take quite a while to build. it's not as instantaneous as it is for men. Just call her every couple of days, send occasional emails, and ask her out again. if she's not interested, she'll turn down the date. meanwhile, just step back and relax and let things take their natural course. good luck!
 
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Yes you are correct, I did say that I might be jumping ahead, I do not want to get in to a relationship right away, the thing is that in past experiences I did get that feeling that she was in to me, so this is new for me.I will wait and see that would be best I think.
 
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Italo2275 is offline Italo2275 Post #5  May 11,2010, 9:59am
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ok so I have setup a third date, she asked if we can go for coffee.Will see what comes from that? Actually I suggested to do something different.
Will see what happends
 
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PM me Italo. I live in Toronto. Long shot, but it would be funny if we dated the same girl! Let's compare notes.
 
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Most of my matches give it about 15 seconds to determine that they are not interested in me.
 
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itsanewworld wrote :
I think you're jumping way ahead of yourself. Attraction for women can sometimes take quite a while to build. it's not as instantaneous as it is for men. Just call her every couple of days, send occasional emails, and ask her out again. if she's not interested, she'll turn down the date. meanwhile, just step back and relax and let things take their natural course. good luck!

I would sure like to meet one of these women that will give it some time.
 
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There has to be some sort of initial attraction. Whether its physical or not to start an interest in you.

In regards to the OP, it's still early and not a relationship yet. You seem interested in this person but you don't wanna come off as needy and overbearing. Take it slow, show that you have interest but aren't creepy with constant text messages, voice mails, emails, whatever. The ball is in theory her court. If she isn't interested in you, best to move on.
 
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Well guys!!! she moved on I should have trusted my gut feeling.
So we talked on the phone and she started to say this is awkward and it does not feel it is flowing and so on...so I explained to her that I was feeling the same and the reason why...I then find out she was waiting for me to do all the work, she said " i called you and you waited one day and bla bla..

I said to her great we cleared our doubts, we talked about it now lets move on, we understand eachother now..

She said no...this is not normal to have this conversation so early in to it..
she said good luck to you..

the end.
 
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