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SilentJ is offline SilentJ Post #1  May 7,2010, 2:40pm
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OK, I'm sure this comes up a lot, but what really makes a good first message that a girl in her 20's (I'm in my 20's) is going to like and reply to? Should it be all short and simple, like "Hey, like your profile. Here's a question for you to answer. Later", or should it be a nice intro plus multiple profile observations then questions, or should it also tell a little about myself, or wha? Any advice from women on here in what they like to see in a first contact?
 
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D_Lion is online now D_Lion Post #2  May 7,2010, 2:50pm
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If you're Donald Trump, empty space will suffice.

My most successful method was to send something funny.

It was usually ignored, but everything else got ignored more.

I do suggest making your message clear that you read her profile, and have a specific statement about why you're writing.
 
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Offer up a little about yourself and incorporate some humor, then ask one or two questions about something in her profile. Good luck!
 
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my first post...

use humor, however as a word of caution watch out for sarcasm. It doesn't come off well on first messages until she gets to know you.
 
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I presume that this is like on a site like Match.

I always would mention something that was in her profile and how that item related to me. Such as we both liked the same music or something like that.
 
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I am a 40 y/o beautiful woman and i was once a 20 something--i dont think its that different--I would keep the first message short-- if she looks at your profile pics and info and is interested and responds to your message--you can sell yourself in detail in the second message to her. I would initially include a classy compliment about her physical appearance and also compliment something else you liked about her profile. and then say If you are interested i would be happy to tell you more. If she writes you first then you know she has at least a bit of interest and you can give more detail. A beautiful woman who is together gets tons of responses and be patient--she may only do so many a day--good luck
 
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