rzande1 is offline rzande1 Post #1  May 6,2010, 9:06pm
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So I think I have finally reached a point where I am just giving up on dating. I really believe already some people were just meant to be alone and I am one of them. Ah well. I figured I would just post it since I am sitting here in the dark alone.
 
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I rather enjoy sitting in the dark alone from time to time. The wind chimes on the patio are nice and my thoughts have room to slide and sway like ballroom dancers.

Trying never guarantees success but giving up always guarantees failure. Just take a break and get back to it when you're feeling stronger.
 
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I think I might be one of those people who can't do a relationship.

I have a BF now, and honestly, i realized this week that I like sleeping in the middle of the bed.

I think I might prefer to be single. I'm not alone, because i have great friends.
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
I think I might be one of those people who can't do a relationship.

I have a BF now, and honestly, i realized this week that I like sleeping in the middle of the bed.

I think I might prefer to be single. I'm not alone, because i have great friends.
The other side of my bed is currently filled with books, but I'm willing to clear space for the right passenger.

You could always get a bigger bed.
 
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
The other side of my bed is currently filled with books, but I'm willing to clear space for the right passenger.

You could always get a bigger bed.

Or sleep in separate rooms.....
 
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Avalon1k wrote :
Or sleep in separate rooms.....
Nope. I'm a snuggler.
Last edited by littlebluemonkeymind; May 6,2010 at 10:35pm. Reason: Even the books, I snuggle. :)
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #7  May 6,2010, 10:46pm

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Hey...I'm 38 and I haven't given up! (my singleness LOL)
 
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Can i have your life if you're not using it?

Seriously, you're 26, you've barely scratched the surface of dating, it's way too early to be contemplating a future as Ms Haversham.You're not going to meet anyone sitting in the dark, don't worry so much about meeting the one, just get out there and have some fun for no other reason than it's fun, you'd be amazed at how many fabulous people you can meet that way.
 
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OP, there might be a lot of factors to consider how you're feeling right now. Do you live in a small, rural town? Are all of your friends married, engaged, in relationships? It is a lot easier being single when you have friends to fall back on who are always actively seeking to do stuff all the time. And if you live in a bigger city where there is more to do, then that helps a lot. If you live in a small town where most people marry by the time they are 26, then it is tough. There isn't many places to go where there are singles, and you do tend to feel like the boat has passed ya by, even at 26. But just think, I'm 35 right now. I'm really feeling it!
 
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At 26, my life hadn't even started. A relationship is not the end all, be all.

You can't just wait for something to happen. You need to go out and make things happen for you.

I recently saw the movie Yes Man. A good friend recommended it to me knowing that it would have an impact on me. Yes, its a typical Jim Carrey movie, BUT, it was so appropriate to my situation.

Pretty much, Jim Carrey's character is a man who is totally miserable. He works, goes home, and just doesn't do anything. Until one day, he goes to this seminar that tells him to instead of saying no, say yes to everything. Yes, it was over the top, but the morale of the story is really to say yes to opportunities that go your way. Someone invites you to a happy hour. Say yes. Go out. You feel like getting dinner, but have no one to go with. Say yes to yourself and go out and treat yourself.

Just say yes to life and treat yourself.
 
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