will guys date an over size 8 woman?


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dogwood is offline dogwood Post #1  May 6,2010, 12:38pm
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I have felt some pressure from matches to be thin. From comments like they want "a firm feeling woman," to actually discussing my weight with a match in open communication.

There are also many matches who don't mention it at all....thanks guys.

If you don't talk about it then go on a date with the woman and she is mildly overweight, will you then not see her again?
 
 
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Overweight is the most common reason I close a profile, and the most common reason I don't see someone a second time (there are usually multiple reasons also, in the case of any specific person.)

Every time I tried waiting to see if attraction would develop later, proved to be a mistake.
 
 
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There are plenty of men with different ideas of what constitutes attractiveness. Just stay out there and keep trying. Sure, some men have hangups about weight. But lots of them don't. I've had ZERO problems finding dates and I don't wear a size eight. Just hang in there.
 
 
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At 5'9 I weigh approximately 155 lbs. While I'm not without a little excess, I'm in reasonably good shape. If she's four inches shorter and weighs as much (or more) than me ... that'll be an issue. Just the honest truth.
 
 
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Sure guys will, but I'm not going to date a woman only because of her size one way or the other.
 
 
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Interesting... I wouldn't consider size "8" overweight at all...

I guess it's a matter of perspective. But, I'm not a guy, so maybe some do.
 
 
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I think that the size does not matter, if you are talking about size and not weight, or how it looks on you; these are different things.

I can wear anywhere from size 6 to 10 depending on the brand or type of pants... I have friends who are curvier and not overweight who may wear up to a size 12...

The thing is that there are different tastes for everyone, and I know guys who like what they call "chuky" women, meaning a bit overweight but not obese... just with some meat on their bones... so don't get discouraged.

It is good to find out as soon as you can what your match is really looking for and how important your physical appearance is. You cannot change who you are in a week from meeting them if they want someone thin... so just be honest about who you are, and if you are comfortable with yourself that is even better...

I have indeed met some men who actually have this statement of not wanting to date anyone who cannot literally fit in their pants... so if they cannot wear them because they are heavier they won't date them... I think that by the time the girl gets to try the pants on, isn't it a bit too late?!

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I don't think most men have much of a clue as to what a size 8 or 10 or 12 woman looks like (or how many different kinds of "shapes" she can be ).

Since most women are larger than a size 8, and most women marry, apparently most men will indeed date a woman larger than a size 8 (despite the stated demands of online daters).

Just include a recent full-length photo of yourself in your profile. Your weight and dress size are none of their business...
 
 
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Jesisi wrote :
I think that the size does not matter, if you are talking about size and not weight, or how it looks on you; these are different things.

I can wear anywhere from size 6 to 10 depending on the brand or type of pants... I have friends who are curvier and not overweight who may wear up to a size 12...

The thing is that there are different tastes for everyone, and I know guys who like what they call "chuky" women, meaning a bit overweight but not obese... just with some meat on their bones... so don't get discouraged.

It is good to find out as soon as you can what your match is really looking for and how important your physical appearance is. You cannot change who you are in a week from meeting them if they want someone thin... so just be honest about who you are, and if you are comfortable with yourself that is even better...

I have indeed met some men who actually have this statement of not wanting to date anyone who cannot literally fit in their pants... so if they cannot wear them because they are heavier they won't date them... I think that by the time the girl gets to try the pants on, isn't it a bit too late?!

Best of luck!!!

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I don't think most men have much of a clue as to what a size 8 or 10 or 12 woman looks like (or how many different kinds of "shapes" she can be ).

Since most women are larger than a size 8, and most women marry, apparently most men will indeed date a woman larger than a size 8 (despite the stated demands of online daters).

Just include a recent full-length photo of yourself in your profile. Your weight and dress size are none of their business...
Were all of those "larger than a size 8" women "larger than a size 8" when they got married?

I'd honestly guess that most women aren't as fat when they got married as they are presently.

Another observation - I believe that most women don't appraise their weight problems as severely as men do.

A woman might think she's 5'2" 150 lbs and she and all of her friends might not consider her overweight (because they're all similarly overweight, so they all rationalize their selves as the norm) even though to a man appraising her sexually she clearly is.

As for the original question, what size you wear or how much you weigh isn't the question, it's how attractive you are.

Some women that are 5'5" and 110 lbs and stick thin aren't particularly attractive, and some women who weigh 30 pounds more are attractive.

However, I will say that being noticeably overweight is one of the quickest ways for a woman to make herself unattractive in my eyes.

Would I date a woman who is a size 8? I could see it being possible, but if she's 5'2" and 150lbs the chances her carrying the weight in such a way that she's still attractive to me are pretty low.
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At 5'9 I weigh approximately 155 lbs. While I'm not without a little excess, I'm in reasonably good shape. If she's four inches shorter and weighs as much (or more) than me ... that'll be an issue. Just the honest truth.
I need to lose weight!
(or maybe I'm all muscle!)
 
 
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