bahama_mamma76 is offline bahama_mamma76 Post #1  May 3,2010, 8:46pm

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Hey all...I've been talking with someone new off and on for a little while and I've found that his grammar in emails, texts and online chats is extremely, extremely bad. So bad sometimes it's hard to decipher what he's saying. Here's a real-life example of a chat today, word for word-which in addition to the bad spelling and grammar was very boring (another issue in itself).

Me: How was your day?
Him: was ok. trinin is borbin lol
Me: Huh, lol?
Him: borin
Me: Training is boring?
Him: ye
Me: Oh, okay.
Him: wha u up to
Me: Had to run into Wal Mart for a minute. How is your job?
Him: paid milige from the branxch each day, so good
Me: That must be nice.
Him: hat u buy in wm
Me: A cord from my ipod and rice cakes, lol.
Him: carmal ones are best, heat in toaser, try it and let me kno.

I won't bore you anymore with the exciting details about rice cakes and ipods, but that, in a nutshell is how he types and talks in our "chats" and texts. I don't know what's worse, his grammar or the fact I am starting to be able to decipher it. I'm not saying that a mistake here and there is not normal, I make grammar and spelling mistakes, but his are constant, and I can't decide if it's laziness, being in a hurry, or what. I mean, as you can see, he barely takes time to form complete words. Am I being too picky??? Are other people turned off by bad grammar when in the beginning stages of dating or getting to know someone??
Last edited by bahama_mamma76; May 3,2010 at 9:14pm. Reason: I spelled "exciting" wrong in an email venting about bad grammar. :)
 
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Ack! That would be a huge turn off for me. I might even tell him I was having problems reading it.

No, you aren't expecting too much from a match (or anyone for that matter) to ask that they type in actual words.
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
Ack! That would be a huge turn off for me. I might even tell him I was having problems reading it.

No, you aren't expecting too much from a match (or anyone for that matter) to ask that they type in actual words.
I actually have told him that his emails and texts are very hard to understand. He just laughed, apologized and really offered no other reason why. A lot of times I ask him "what?" or almost force him to at least try to spell the word right, but it's getting old. Tonight, I actually just stopped texting him back because I just didn't have the energy to try to figure out what he was saying, lol.

Thanks illustrator, I didn't check the other boards before posting. I will check that thread out.
 
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I might even tell him I was having problems reading it.

" please use real words... if u r rite 2 me like tis... I wnt ansr u .... LOL! " - AP
 
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This guy isn't even trying, I'd write him off. Literally. If he asks, tell him he'd have to pay for a translator for you.

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OMG!! That would be too difficult to deal with. Does he only write like that in text, or are his emails as bad? I don't think I could put up with it... I mean... just the amount of time it would take to try and understand what he is saying... UGH! Huge turnoff... communication is one of my TOP priorities, so this guy would be a "no-go" for me. But, different strokes depending on what you're looking for.

Maybe his ulta-sexy abs make up for it or something .
 
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I gotta say I actually lol'd when i read the OP's conversation!

I've seen some 'text talk' before but that guy takes the cake! I don't know what his deal is.
Last edited by PY_2; May 3,2010 at 10:21pm. Reason: dang it now I want cake!
 
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Haha, it's ALL I can do to not close a match as soon as I start to see misspellings. I'm not anal or anything, it just strikes me as really really lazy. I make typos once in a while, but that "text speech" is just childish and annoying. How much time does it really save you to type "right" instead of "rite"??
 
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This would be a HUGE turn off for me, given that writing is the main tool that I use at work.
 
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