Does "Real World" dating even happen anymore?


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jussmile is offline jussmile Post #1  May 3,2010, 6:07pm
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I have now been single for about a year, and dating for a good portion of that. When I first started dating, I was convinced by some friends (acquiantances actually), that online dating is the only way to go. So, I decided to give it a try to see what would happen. Since that time, I have found online dating to be fun, sometimes overwhelming... but mostly fun. But, I was just wondering why over the last several months have I not had one... no not one... date other than guys that I've met online.

Do you think there could be a mental block for people who mostly date people online, that they are not necessarily open to dating people in other methods? In a way, do we get used to seeing profiles, knowing likes/dislikes up front, that it puts us too far behind the starting line to date someone we just "happenchance" meet.
 
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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #2  May 3,2010, 6:10pm
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out in the real world men do a lot of looking and nothing else. they do a lot of walking by and looking.
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yeah, I think so.

But I'm tiring of it and letting my subscriptions run out for the summer and I've been meeting more people latley and plan to just 'be' for the summer and see what happens.

Real life dating still happens but I think online dating is a great resource for adults that don't have the social networks they did in school.

But...it's also become a bit too predictable for me, too.
 
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Hmmm. Interesting question. Maybe there as been a cultural shift towards online dating; this would mean that a whole generation is losing the in-person skills for finding a partner. That would be a great shame, I think.
 
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I find my partners online. Wish it wasn't, but facts are facts.
 
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Well we all know I pick my guys up in bars microbreweries. Even when I had my eHa account I still could tell who was or was not interested.

What was the question again?
 
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I think people who are isolated socially will have better luck finding dating partners online. People who engage with friends often in real life, who are open to meeting others through those friends, will have a good chance of finding dates.

Online dating gives us the chance to "vet" potential dates before investing a lot of time and money, serving the same purpose as those real-life friends who can give you some background info on their cousin's best friend or the new guy at their office.
 
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online exposes one to a mostly unique subset of the population you would not meet otherwise.

this is good because they have not been poisoned by your reputation as a conqueror, a flake, a meal-digger, poofer,bor whatever ill mannered habits infest you.

on line rocks.
 
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online exposes one to a mostly unique subset of the population you would not meet otherwise.

this is good because they have not been poisoned by your reputation as a conqueror, a flake, a meal-digger, poofer,bor whatever ill mannered habits infest you.

on line rocks.
I'm sure you mean the general "your" right... jeeze! Did I say something to offend you? I have a viewpoint too... there's no mighty horse that makes only one view right here. Each post I make you seem to come in and start calling names. There is a high road, we can all take it right? There's room for various opinions in such an open board, right?

To make matters worse... hold your horses... I had several guys tell me how much they want to take care of me... they love my more traditional views... and, they want to pay for dates, open doors, walk me to my car, buy me nice things . Gasp, the nerve. Yes, someone should have warned them beforehand of my meal-digging ways (not sure where the poofer part came in at...). Oh, yeah, these guys were all online. Maybe I'll run through those, and before my meal ticket runs out, I'll find a few more suckers... err, I mean, dates to take me out! I'll go hungry otherwise... the horror.
Last edited by jussmile; May 3,2010 at 6:39pm. Reason: I almost forgot... they also want to take me on trips :)... OMG!! I should just slap them!
 
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jussmile wrote :
I'm sure you mean the general "your" right... jeeze! Did I say something to offend you? I have a viewpoint too... there's no mighty horse that makes only one view right here. Each post I make you seem to come in and start calling names. There is a high road, we can all take it right? There's room for various opinions in such an open board, right?

To make matters worse... hold your horses... I had several guys tell me how much they want to take care of me... they love my more traditional views... and, they want to pay for dates, open doors, walk me to my car, buy me nice things . Gasp, the nerve. Yes, someone should have warned them beforehand of my meal-digging ways (not sure where the poofer part came in at...). Oh, yeah, these guys were all online. Maybe I'll run through those, and before my meal ticket runs out, I'll find a few more suckers... err, I mean, dates to take me out! I'll go hungry otherwise... the horror.
you seem a bit full of yourself.

it was a generic "you". not about you in the least. about all of us - unless you have a reputation as a conqueror that is.

and lastly, I could not care less what guys tell you.
 
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