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You’ve probably heard of the idea that “men should pursue” because they are “natural hunters”. This vein of thinking further asserts that once men have “conquered” they lose interest.

What do you believe about this? How true is it? Is there a grain of truth in this concept? If so, how does it influence and affect relationships?

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Well, if you're wondering why he slept with you, and now won't answer your calls, it's either this - or your technique is awful !!!

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I do not agree with this is relationships.

This is for the workplace, the racetrack, the gym ... I'll take my desire for conquest to where the men are - so victory can mean something.

Relationships are a sanctuary from this attitude, actually.
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This is for the workplace, the racetrack, the gym ... I'll take my desire for conquest to where the men are - so victory can mean something.
I. Beg. Your. Pardon?

Unless you have a good explanation, this flies in the face of so many things you have said!
 
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I think we should perform a study.
 
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eH_Advice_Host_Kate wrote :
You’ve probably heard of the idea that “men should pursue” because they are “natural hunters”. This vein of thinking further asserts that once men have “conquered” they lose interest.

What do you believe about this? How true is it? Is there a grain of truth in this concept? If so, how does it influence and affect relationships?

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Thank you so much for asking, Kate!

I think that it's true, but to varying degrees. I think that there are men out there that are less like that, but I believe that it is fundamentally true of most.

I think it influences relationships in how valuable that men will perceive women to be based on how much they have to compete for them. I do not think that it will make a relationship where the fundamentals are not there for both people. If a man does not approach first, its likely he isnt that attracted.

Because of hormonal changes as we age, there could be some modification of this as we get older.
 
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ThePriestess wrote :
I think we should perform a study.
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ThePriestess wrote :
I think we should perform a study.
i think people have done it, at least informally

there are lots of books on the subject
 
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Nanette wrote :
I. Beg. Your. Pardon?

Unless you have a good explanation, this flies in the face of so many things you have said!

Are Those Capital Letters In Your Post?

You cannot be suggesting my posts have presented an idea of chasing a woman, for the sake of "conquest," and then moving on for another?
 
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eH_Advice_Host_Kate wrote :
You’ve probably heard of the idea that “men should pursue” because they are “natural hunters”. This vein of thinking further asserts that once men have “conquered” they lose interest.

What do you believe about this? How true is it? Is there a grain of truth in this concept? If so, how does it influence and affect relationships?

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Based on personal experience, I've found this to be true. I have initiated almost all of my relationships and the initial interest on the guy's part seems to fade fast. I don't know if it's because I'm not a challenge or some other reason.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Are Those Capital Letters In Your Post?

You cannot be suggesting my posts have presented an idea of chasing a woman, for the sake of "conquest," and then moving on for another?
no, i'm not suggesting that. please explain to me what the whole "equality" thing is about.
 
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