I think I respond to emails too fast, thereby appearing desperate/smothering

what if they aren't a subscriber but are waiting for pay day?

I actually think this is the worst thing about eH. They should not send you matches that you can't communicate with. Or they should at least put a note that this person isn't paid up.

I think I respond to emails too fast from men and thereby end up appearing smothering and/or desperate. I do it not only with men from online dating sites, but in real life with guys I know. I had one guy I dated recently, from my past, make a comment about how "and those emails you send that you expect me to respond to in 45 seconds".

I never, ever complained when that guy didn't respond quickly. but when he responded, I would email him back, usually within 10-15 minutes if I was online and, if not, as soon as I went online and saw his email. Usually never went more than overnight without responding.

and then another guy, an old friend who seems to now be interested in more, has been emailing me and again, I email him back quickly, and then he takes 2-3 weeks to email me, always apologizing for being so slow. yet I email him back usually the same day that I do get an email. wondering if I should pace that out and wait a few days before responding, to match his approach.

I am getting the same feeling from online guys I've been corresponding with that they think I email too quickly. I always wait and only email AFTER the guy emails. I don't send two or three in a row without a response. But I do email, again, as soon as I see it, which could be 10-15 minutes.

Do I really need to hold off and wait a few hours, or longer, to avoid appearing needy/desperate? I so hate to play games, but I also trust my gut instinct and it's telling me to slow it down and not be quite so available/ready/fast draw mcgraw on the email.

thoughts? I'm sure there are many.

I think I respond to emails too fast from men and thereby end up appearing smothering and/or desperate. I do it not only with men from online dating sites, but in real life with guys I know. I had one guy I dated recently, from my past, make a comment about how "and those emails you send that you expect me to respond to in 45 seconds".

I never, ever complained when that guy didn't respond quickly. but when he responded, I would email him back, usually within 10-15 minutes if I was online and, if not, as soon as I went online and saw his email. Usually never went more than overnight without responding.

and then another guy, an old friend who seems to now be interested in more, has been emailing me and again, I email him back quickly, and then he takes 2-3 weeks to email me, always apologizing for being so slow. yet I email him back usually the same day that I do get an email. wondering if I should pace that out and wait a few days before responding, to match his approach.

I am getting the same feeling from online guys I've been corresponding with that they think I email too quickly. I always wait and only email AFTER the guy emails. I don't send two or three in a row without a response. But I do email, again, as soon as I see it, which could be 10-15 minutes.

Do I really need to hold off and wait a few hours, or longer, to avoid appearing needy/desperate? I so hate to play games, but I also trust my gut instinct and it's telling me to slow it down and not be quite so available/ready/fast draw mcgraw on the email.

thoughts? I'm sure there are many.