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1talldrinkofwater is offline 1talldrinkofwater Post #1  April 30,2010, 3:11pm
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I'm a 36 year old male and work evening/night hours -6pm to 2:30am - during the week for my career. It's already a disadvantage on my social life working this schedule. I have friends that also say they would not be able to handle it if they were to date anyone with these work hours. It's starting to get discouraging and feel my dating options are very limited. So, my question to women, and I just want to get sense of opinions out there, is this a deal breaker when it comes to dating someone, or would you be open to work with it?
 
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Have you considered looking for women with a similar schedule?

Non-standard work hours are something I might consider in a non-cohabiting situation, for a very short term which is expected to end. I woul not consider it outside of that condition.
 
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It really depends on how hot the woman is.
 
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These are very difficult hours to work around. If the situation was temporary, that would be a totally different story. But, permanent........?
 
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The biggest problem I see is that you're going to miss out on some of the time it takes to really get to know someone. I'm assuming you have weekends off and could date normal hours, but what about regular daily conversations?

Once in an established relationship, it's workable with some modifications. I've worked this schedule. I've also worked a day schedule while my ex-husband worked a 2 to 11 p.m. shift. It's certainly not easy to find time to spend together, but it's doable once the commitment is there.

It's getting there where you might have issues.
 
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my bf travels for work- sometimes he finds out 2 days before he has to leave, sometimes he's gone for a few days, sometimes a few weeks for big projects.

he was very open about telling me that one reason he hasn't had a relationship in a while is that most women (and i believe this) aren't really accepting of this.

i personally prefer it. i don't miss him when he's away, because I'm an only child and not clingy by nature and have tons of friends and interests other than him, but i am happy when he comes home. we make the most of the time when he's home, and that's all.

I'm sure eventually you will find someone who either works a similar shift or is willing to compromise .
 
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Your schedule make it difficult to regularly communicate because while you are at work someone else is home.


An ideal candidate for you may be a nurse who always or periodically cycles to do graveyard shift. a friend of mine does graveyard Friday, Saturday, and Sunday nights.

Is your schedule something temporary? There are some careers that always have to have someone 24 hrs a day which then means with full timers there is usually a rotating cycle of work shifts.

Through work do you have access to your personal email? If so you could still communicate with a woman.

With some woman they will not want such a schedule long term because their job is a 9-5. How easily is it for you to change your schedule if you found someone...even if that means you make less pay?
 
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Well I work in healthcare, where there is no traditional hours, because no one gets sick between 9-5, one of the question on EH i make sure to ask is about how busy would your partner should be, its give good barometer of who accepting of it and who is not.
 
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Hey - I'm going thru the same thing myself (apparently we could be siblings since you have almost the same screen name, too).

I have worked swing/nights AND have Sunday Monday off - so nothing traditional about being able to date me. Anyway, I never cared to change my hours before, I have been working that for 10+ years. Well, I recently met someone that I'd really like to get to know better - so I took the plunge and have been working days for a week.

I didn't find that those days/hours were deal breakers for the men that wanted to date me before - they were always more than willing to work with whatever hours I offered up. Now, I did it for me.
 
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I am obviously not your target audience but I can see many opportunities for you to get together with someone who is working a standard 8 to 5 job. But then I think outside the box and am very flexible in getting what I want.
 
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