serrith is offline serrith Post #1  April 29,2010, 4:49pm
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I am very very new to dating.
I went on a first date with someone I really like. Being shy and slow to make a move, I didn't hug or kiss her on the end of first date. I simply expressed that I had fun and we made arrangements for the next date.
She has definately expressed an interest in me through flirting since the date.
I will be going out with her again and was thinking about greeting her with a hug.
I really like her so I really don't want to mess things up by being too forward or too slow to act.
What do you think?
 
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I think in your situation, a hug would be welcomed.

When is the date?
 
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A hug is a good idea. Can't say I would turn down a hug. Hope it all goes well.
 
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I agree, a hug can be appropriate on a 2nd date, as long as you feel comfortable with that sort of greeting. However, not a kiss. I've had guys try to greet me with a kiss (even a peck on the lips) and it can be a quite awkward. Have fun, and by the end of the date you should have your first kiss (remember - DON'T ASK - just go for it) and then you'll start your 3rd date with a hug and a kiss.
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I agree, a hug can be appropriate on a 2nd date, as long as you feel comfortable with that sort of greeting. However, not a kiss. I've had guys try to greet me with a kiss (even a peck on the lips) and it can be a quite awkward. Have fun, and by the end of the date you should have your first kiss (remember - DON'T ASK - just go for it) and then you'll start your 3rd date with a hug and a kiss.
 
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newbie40something wrote :
I think in your situation, a hug would be welcomed.

When is the date?
Out of respect for my date, I cannot say specifics such as that.
 
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serrith wrote :
Out of respect for my date, I cannot say specifics such as that.
Huh?
 
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mrflyer wrote :
Huh?

HA!
 
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serrith wrote :
I will be going out with her again and was thinking about greeting her with a hug.
I really like her so I really don't want to mess things up by being too forward or too slow to act.
What do you think?
I think you'll be good with a hug!! GOOD LUCK!!
 
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serrith wrote :
Out of respect for my date, I cannot say specifics such as that.
Um, I don't think anyone would find it disrespectful to say Saturday.

Cute that you are worried about hugging and such. Just wondering what you are going to do if she kisses you? You do know women will kiss guys right?
 
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