Bad flirting, and flirting in general


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Dasil is offline Dasil Post #1  April 29,2010, 12:13am
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Hi again,

So I was talking with some of my friends, and the conversation eventually turned to dating and their attempts at flirting.

One was taking an old schoolmate out to dinner, and she knew a lot about him even though they hadn't seen each other in years, and he could not remember telling her any of it recently. It turns out he said something about it back when they were in school and she just has a good memory.

Anyways, he asked her how she knew so much, and she told him. He said "Oh, so you're not a stalker? That's good." He followed this with "Although, you would definitely be the cutest stalker I've ever had."

I'm totally inexperienced with flirting, but is this bad flirting?

What are some other examples of bad flirting (or good flirting), and what should you avoid when flirting? What should you look for?

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Dasil wrote :
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"Oh, so you're not a stalker? That's good." He followed this with "Although, you would definitely be the cutest stalker I've ever had."
Yeah, that's kinda cute. Flirting is a lot like stand-up comedy, it's all about the delivery.
 
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Dasil wrote :
He said "Oh, so you're not a stalker? That's good." He followed this with "Although, you would definitely be the cutest stalker I've ever had."

I'm totally inexperienced with flirting, but is this bad flirting?
it's somewhat negative. no one wants to be (or perceived as) a stalker, cute or not.
 
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Innuendo is often the best type of flirting as opposed to blunt or obvious. But like szgorzelski says, delivery is really the key. It also really depends on the person you're flirting with--you have to be able to read them at least a little first.
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It's not about words, but timing, delivery, context and individual personality. A charismatic person can say something out of line and it won't come across that way and people will love it. If someone less charismatic said the same thing, it will be perceived as offensive.
 
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