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josephsimion is offline josephsimion Post #1  April 28,2010, 9:41pm
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Hi there , I am joseph and nice to meet you all,!

I have a question that my mate requested that i do not have any clue to deal with

That his girl and him are in good relationship for a while but there existed one thing that he could not stand ,
his girl asked gift whenever there is a chnace , he is okay wiht it and he loves to buy gift to plase his girl , ( this is something i can not bear , ok , female friends throw balls at me ,)
But but , he girl like to take him to shops , sort of door shopping and left hint to him what she like or not toward something , or you can say she sort of wants my frined to buy that thing for hom , as man's perspective ,

I am just wondering if this is right or any comment ?!


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It is perfectly possible to window shop and to admire things without actually be asking for them as gifts.

It is also possible to be a "gold-digger."

Which, if either, is the case here is impossible to say without further information.
 
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Can_I_just_be_Jo is offline Can_I_just_be_Jo Post #3  April 29,2010, 7:03am

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Tell him to cut her off and see if she stays. If she bolts she is most likely a gold digger. Obviously he needs to tell her this is what he is going to do in a nice way but still.....
 
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If we are out and about walking through different shops, it's natural to point out things that you like or that catch your attention. This does not mean that it's a hint or a request for a guy to buy it for me.

So the question is does she really ask or is he trying too hard to please and reading way too much into things? Ultimately, it's really simple, if he feels like giving her something, he should and if he doesn't he shouldn't. If she leaves him because he does not buy her gifts all the time, he just saved money and lost a gold-digger. It's a win win situation.
 
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Hi Joseph!
Perhaps he could buy her a present when she has not asked for one? And not buy them when she does.

(Like dog-training.) LOL!

But really if he hates it, he could tell her that and ask why she does it, in a nice way, not angry or accusing. Perhaps she is insecure.
 
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jussmile is offline jussmile Post #6  April 29,2010, 7:20am
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It depends...

I had a friend, this friend had a friend who is short, balding and 44... he married a really beautiful, fit 21 yo... now, he married her basically as a trophy wife. She wanted an expensive handbag, and this friend complained that the girl wanted the bag.

My friend and I both agreed that his friend should buy her the bag. This was the unspoken agreement they had going into the marriage.

Don't buy a trophy if you can't afford the polish.

So, again... it depends... if you friend was not getting a "trophy" and he just wants to please his woman, there is nothing wrong with that either, as long as she is spoiling him in return. It's all about equality in the relationship. From an outside perspective looking in, you cannot determine whether the relationship is equal. Only the two people in the relationship can determine if that is the case. If your friend does not feel as though his girl is equally contributing to spoiling him in the way that he needs... then he should make that clear.
 
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"So, what first attracted you to the much older, short, balding millionaire Mr....(put in name of choice)".
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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
Tell him to cut her off and see if she stays. If she bolts she is most likely a gold digger. Obviously he needs to tell her this is what he is going to do in a nice way but still.....
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jussmile wrote :
It depends...

I had a friend, this friend had a friend who is short, balding and 44... he married a really beautiful, fit 21 yo... now, he married her basically as a trophy wife. She wanted an expensive handbag, and this friend complained that the girl wanted the bag.
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So she has 1,000 other handbags. Of which 995 have never seen the light of day
 
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Some people view receiving gifts or giving gifts as an expression of love.

However, I am reading this one as a gold digger.
 
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