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eHA_Admin_Lori is offline eHA_Admin_Lori — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  April 28,2010, 11:11am
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We're about to come up on a new month on Saturday, and I've been thinking (uh-oh....)



What would our dating lives be like if we dropped all pretenses, expectations, "baggage" and "games" for one month, and went into every dating situation with a truly open heart and mind, believing that the other person IS who they say they are, and has only the best intentions*?

Do you think it would improve things in your dating life? Why or why not?

Anyone care to sign up and give it a try, and maybe keep a chronicle of their experience here on Advice (we could start a Group to be a home for those threads).

Or, am I just crazy?

What say you????

*I am obviously not suggesting that we ignore any real signs of danger (i.e. don't ignore strong "gut" feelings of being unsafe, etc. Safety for ALL of us (men & women both) is paramount!


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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #2  April 28,2010, 11:14am

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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
We're about to come up on a new month on Saturday, and I've been thinking (uh-oh....)



What would our dating lives be like if we dropped all pretenses, expectations, "baggage" and "games" for one month, and went into every dating situation with a truly open heart and mind, believing that the other person IS who they say they are, and has only the best intentions*?

Do you think it would improve things in your dating life? Why or why not?

Anyone care to sign up and give it a try, and maybe keep a chronicle of their experience here on Advice (we could start a Group to be a home for those threads).

Or, am I just crazy?

What say you????

*I am obviously not suggesting that we ignore any real signs of danger (i.e. don't ignore strong "gut" feelings of being unsafe, etc. Safety for ALL of us (men & women both) is paramount!
But then we won't have anything to complain, then suddenly ehA is shut down due to lack of participation, and we'll miss you

lol...but yeah, I'm up for it (tell that to the women though LOL )
 
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Let me make sure I have this right. We DO, in fact have to have a date for this to work, correct? If so, Houston, we have a problem.
 
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This experiment would be interesting if both sides would do that. However, i get the feeling that if we, as a community of EHA did this, We, as a community of Eha would collectively come back hurt and dejected on June 1st, because we all opened ourselves up and got played.
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #5  April 28,2010, 11:25am

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I claim first dibs on Lori!
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
We're about to come up on a new month on Saturday, and I've been thinking (uh-oh....)



What would our dating lives be like if we dropped all pretenses, expectations, "baggage" and "games" for one month, and went into every dating situation with a truly open heart and mind, believing that the other person IS who they say they are, and has only the best intentions*?

Do you think it would improve things in your dating life? Why or why not?

Anyone care to sign up and give it a try, and maybe keep a chronicle of their experience here on Advice (we could start a Group to be a home for those threads).

Or, am I just crazy?

What say you????

*I am obviously not suggesting that we ignore any real signs of danger (i.e. don't ignore strong "gut" feelings of being unsafe, etc. Safety for ALL of us (men & women both) is paramount!
Good idea in theory, Lori...
"I'd like to teach the world to sing"....and all that.....but...
there's also this little thing called real world experience that tends to help people with their decisions that they make...and I just don't believe it can be switched off, like a button on a radio.
That's just the way it is.

And that's not prejudice...prejudice is pre-judging a situation or person about which you have little or no information....
Sure, baggage is not good, and neither is game playing...but it's hard to just go into something like dating and say "OK, whatever this person tells me is fine"...
To that end, actions do speak louder than words.
It's like: "In God we trust...all others pay cash."


I do applaud your efforts, though.
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PY_2 wrote :
I claim first dibs on Lori!
Fine ... *glares* ...

Anna Nalick for me then.
Last edited by ThePriestess; April 28,2010 at 11:30am. Reason: Lori already said she was off-limits anyway ... unless she was just letting me down nicely ...
 
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I claim first dibs on Lori!
hands off...she's mine!
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lol sometimes I wonder if Lori thinks we're just a bunch of difficult kids needing to be spanked, sent to our room, with no dessert!
 
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