tdk_illusion is offline tdk_illusion Post #1  April 27,2010, 9:48pm
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Hello all,

I'm usually just a lurker on these threads and just mostly read but there is something that I have been wonder.

I have been dating this girl...and we have progressed normally and entering into a relationship and being boy/girlfriend and all that jazz. I then found out that i'm her first boyfriend....she is 20 and I turned 24. Now I wonder...is this something that I should be worried about? we have been together for 2 months and I wonder since I had girlfriends before and she has never had a boyfriend before would this cause problems later on in our relationship?

I only ask because I don't think I know anyone who has ended up with the first and only person they have dated.

Just wondering what others opinions are...
 
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tdk_illusion wrote :
...is this something that I should be worried about?
Nope.
 
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tdk_illusion wrote :
...found out that i'm her first boyfriend....she is 20 and I turned 24. Now I wonder...is this something that I should be worried about...
I was about your gf's age when I had my first real relationship. I still think about him every now and then. He'll always hold a special place in my heart.
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I only ask because I don't think I know anyone who has ended up with the first and only person they have dated...
I do. But it's kinda irrelevant, or at the very least premature, to be concerned with this.

Just enjoy!
 
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There has to be a first for everything, even boyfriends and girlfriends.

No red flag, she is only 20.
 
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tdk_illusion wrote :
Hello all,

I'm usually just a lurker on these threads and just mostly read but there is something that I have been wonder.

I have been dating this girl...and we have progressed normally and entering into a relationship and being boy/girlfriend and all that jazz. I then found out that i'm her first boyfriend....she is 20 and I turned 24. Now I wonder...is this something that I should be worried about? we have been together for 2 months and I wonder since I had girlfriends before and she has never had a boyfriend before would this cause problems later on in our relationship?

I only ask because I don't think I know anyone who has ended up with the first and only person they have dated.

Just wondering what others opinions are...
First date couples DO work depending on the couple. I have family members to prove it.
 
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stevex is offline stevex Post #6  April 28,2010, 8:02am
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My only concern would be if she got restless and decided she wanted to experience dating other men. I am my girlfriend's second boyfriend, she is my sixth girlfriend (she is 19, I am 21). Not a huge concern for me and don't let it rule your mind, just enjoy what you have.
 
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Why would you worry about this? Would you be happier if she said you were her 100th boyfriend?
 
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tdk_illusion wrote :

Now I wonder...is this something that I should be worried about?
I'd build on what TP had said earlier.

Nope...and it's actually less problem for you. You won't have to deal with "Well, my ex brought me flowers, and so should you" nonsense...or "Well, my ex never called to say he love me, now YOU have to compensate for that and call me every single day"

Either way, I think you start with a nice clean slate!

But...make sure you treat her nicely though!
 
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You should be thrilled and honored. LOL You don't have to listen to the "my ex" stories because there are none in existence. lol You don't have to feel like you're being compared to anyone. Everything she does relationship-wise with you is her first time, so it's gonna be extra special to her. And if it doesn't work out.. hey, the bonus is you'll be the guy she compares everyone else to.

I'm 25 and am only a couple months into my first relationship. (I'm actually a few years older than him too lol) Sometimes I feel insecure like I'm secretly being compared to his ex's, and I guess in a way everyone does that. But each individual has their own personalities you really can't compare, so it's a different comparison. Okay, it's starting to not make sense so I'll stop there. lol Bottom line is... I can't compare him to anyone.. so he should be on a mega power trip. LOL As should you... just... don't let it get to your head. Feel proud.
 
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