Is Dating supposed to lead to marriage?


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jussmile is offline jussmile Post #1  April 27,2010, 5:36pm
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When you start dating someone, do you think about whether that person is "marriage material" or whether you could see yourself married to that person? How they would fit into your life with your friends and family? Or, is it okay to just date the person and have a separate life, that just consists of you two, where your worlds don't necessarily have to blend?

I guess I ask whether dating is supposed to lead to marriage, because if your two worlds do blend together... isn't that the natural progression of where things are supposed to go? My mom is of the school that if you date someone once, you are planning to get married next week. I stopped telling her about my dating life as every guy that I described that I partially liked, she was more than ready to marry me off !! She hates the idea of multi-dating. I don't think that you're expecting to marry everyone that you casually date... but for most people isn't that the point to this whole dating thing, to start uncovering the layers and see if you could be with that person for the long haul?
 
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Only if "multi-dating" is supposed to lead to polygamy.

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jussmile wrote :
When you start dating someone, do you think about whether that person is "marriage material" or whether you could see yourself married to that person?
i do. there isnt any point in going further if at some point i find that they arent
 
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What would it take to get some punctuation into your posts?
 
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A picture?
 
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It does for me...I am viewing people from the get go as a potential for marriage since that is my goal.


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And yeah, leave mom out of it for now. Some things are just better left unsaid until there is a reason to say them.lol!
 
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jussmile wrote :
When you start dating someone, do you think about whether that person is "marriage material" or whether you could see yourself married to that person? How they would fit into your life with your friends and family? Or, is it okay to just date the person and have a separate life, that just consists of you two, where your worlds don't necessarily have to blend?
I definitely think of marriage when dating. At 34, I don't want to waste my time...I did that in my twenties.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
What would it take to get some punctuation into your posts?
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A picture?
lol! yes. a picture :)
 
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I do.

Seriously, folks, I have always wanted to be married.....and mostly, I always have been.

When I get around to "putting it out there again".....you just better know I'm going to "size him up".

No sense in wasting anybody's time, is there?

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Can I pick something else other than dating that leads to marriage? Something easier and guaranteed??
 
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