Is a female best friend a bad thing for a guy ?


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giovanniazael wrote :
Well she needs to realize that you could have easily picked your friend, but instead, you chose her.
This is not always the case. Sometimes a guy is a "friend" to a female he would very much like to date, but she has declared "he is like a brother to me." So he stays "best friends" with the woman and hopes that she eventually changes her mind.
 
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Are you attracted to your female best friend?
would I call her attractive yes, but as in attracted for dating purposes no, not in the least
 
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would I call her attractive yes, but as in attracted for dating purposes no, not in the least
So it is at least your choice that you two are not dating?
 
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So it is at least your choice that you two are not dating?
I would say its a mutual agreement, are views on dating and relationship are radically different we both know and agree on that.
 
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Any sexual tension sometimes between you two that maybe your dates were sensing?
 
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I would say its a mutual agreement, are views on dating and relationship are radically different we both know and agree on that.
Then if I were you I would at least try to casually tell your future dates that you have never been interested in dating her. And if you behave accordingly when you are with her (like mentioned by other posts before - no flirting and things of that nature) and sometimes even offer you date to join you when you hang out with your best friend, then I think more would be more accepting to the situation.

Most women, and I imagine men, will not want to be the second-choice person. So if a date thinks that you are attracted to your best friend, I doubt she will be happy to think you are dating her mainly because she is available and your female best friend is not, not because your date is actually your first choice.

I mean, just put yourself in the same situation as your date: if the best friend of a girl you really like is a good looking guy that can make you think that she is attracted to, how comfortable will you be with the situation without knowing that she is not interested in him romantically?
 
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I don't mind when a man has female acquaintances, but a best friend? That consists of long talks on the phone, sharing feelings, telling how your day was. Maybe I'm reading too much into it, but those are things I would want my boyfriend to do with me, not another female. Also, you've been friends with her 10 years and no sexual tension ever? Turn the tables around...would you want your girlfriend to have a best guy friend? I bet most guys on here would say no.
 
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I don't mind when a man has female acquaintances, but a best friend? That consists of long talks on the phone, sharing feelings, telling how your day was. Maybe I'm reading too much into it, but those are things I would want my boyfriend to do with me, not another female. Also, you've been friends with her 10 years and no sexual tension ever? Turn the tables around...would you want your girlfriend to have a best guy friend? I bet most guys on here would say no.
Good points, but keep in mind it more like, broth. sister deal. So yes to sharing of feelings, but no to long talks on the phone, txt messaging yes but not till my phone dies. However sexual tension is something I will have to take a hard think about
 
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However sexual tension is something I will have to take a hard think about
I can't imagine having sexual tension when one is not attracted to the other person.
 
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I can't imagine having sexual tension when one is not attracted to the other person.
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