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D_Lion is online now D_Lion Post #1  April 26,2010, 3:33pm
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Regarding this comment which appeared in the "women wanting to marry" thread:


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I actually believed the people on eHarm were the seekers of serious relationships (marriage notwithstanding). Who would pay their fees for hooking up when there's Plentyo'fish?

However, since joining the advice site, I know eHarm attracts the same type of people the other sites do. Maybe it's a quality thing.

In my personal experience (of 10 - 15 years ago), I was seeking long relationships, but I was certainly not adverse to having a brief casual partner, should one make herself available and seemed safe.

Quality of people on eHarmony did seem slightly better than Match, but the user experience was considerably better, as well.

Willingness to take a short-term situation, when that is all that is available, ought not be confused with seeking a short-term situation only.

I think this approach is a common one.
 
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I totally agree. I too am seeking a LTR. But in the event that I meet someone I like, and who is not appropriate as a long-term-partner, I might be convinced to seek some company.

I understand, though, that a guy telling that story might be harder to believe because there is the likelyhood that this is the way they always operate.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Willingness to take a short-term situation, when that is all that is available, ought not be confused with seeking a short-term situation only.
A statement that one's intent is to seek a long-term relationship when in fact this is not really the case, is also a common approach. Expecially for the smart ones wanting to date 'quality.'

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I think this approach is a common one.
 
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D_Lion is online now D_Lion Post #4  April 26,2010, 4:55pm
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I'm confused by your post?
 
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Before marrying the first time.....when I was very young.....I thought short-term. Marrying changed all that.

Between marriages, I knew I wanted to remarry. I did go out with a couple.....strictly casual.....until I met my second husband. Then I dropped everything for him.

I am not dating yet, now that he's gone. But I just can't see myself bothering with short-term or casual again.

I want the whole enchilada; nothing less will do.

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D_Lion wrote :
I'm confused by your post?
Some guys say their intent is an LTR when it's not. I've overheard at least one conversation from a highly intelligent guy who actually was NOT but who told me he was seeking a long-term relationship. He claimed to his friend that I was the quality of woman he wanted to date.

My point is that eH -- because it is marketed as more than a dating site -- may appeal to someone who thinks that claiming to want something long-term (when they really don't) will attract 'better' dates. I think this is common.
 
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I'm confused by my post.
 
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ThePriestess wrote :
I'm confused by my post.

Make a few more and see if a consensus appears.
 
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I'm confused by my post.
Sweetie you didn't post yet or was there were the confusion came in?
 
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I'm definitely looking for quality short term relationship!
Last edited by PY_2; April 26,2010 at 7:22pm. Reason: not THAT kind of relationship! lol
 
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