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I've only had a few matches admit to having a criminal past. Depending on what kind of crimes we are talking about I may or may not have issues. Sometimes it is a huge red flag and I close immediately. Other times, it seems less important. Again, based on what the crime was. Huge differences between shop lifting and a DUI.

Is a criminal past an immediate deal breaker for you? What kinds of crimes might pass your sniff test? Have you even met a match who later admits to being incarcerated in the past?

Just wondering about others thoughts and feelings on this.
 
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None of the matches that have landed in my queue have admitted to any kind of criminal past. For me, anything worse than a traffic ticket at any time in the past would cause for an immediate close (or breakup), even if we'd started to get a bit "close."

No potential exceptions come to mind, though perhaps if it were not 5 in the morning, I'd be able to concoct something.
 
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I prefer my ladies to be on probation. The ankle bracelet makes it easier to locate them if they try to poof on me.
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
I've only had a few matches admit to having a criminal past.
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Depending on what kind of crimes we are talking about I may or may not have issues. Sometimes it is a huge red flag and I close immediately. Other times, it seems less important. Again, based on what the crime was. Huge differences between shop lifting and a DUI.
Is a criminal past an immediate deal breaker for you? What kinds of crimes might pass your sniff test? Have you even met a match who later admits to being incarcerated in the past?

Just wondering about others thoughts and feelings on this.
Everyone has a past. How we choose to live our lives now and if we have learnt from that past is the real question. If someone has been to prison for an extended period of time then the crime is something serious and possibly the person will require more than love to rehabilitate them to a healthy and balanced way of life. Crimes against children and violent crimes are an automatic NO! ...DUI? I live in Australia and yes..I have been over the limit before. I've also had parking tickets and would like to think that I have hope of finding a stable, normal, nice and loving partner who won't shun me for having made mistakes. My father went to prison when he was 18 for 6 months..he also went on to become a pastor in a church and raise $80k in 6 weeks for a young boy to be flown to the U.S for a kidney transplant. He also started a youth centre and let homeless teens share our house when they had no where to go. I guess you need to take everyone, no matter what they say, with a pinch of salt and use common sense. I certainly wouldn't shut someone out because of a criminal past but would be sensible when considering a relationship...after all..my dad is one in a million!
 
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ThePriestess wrote :
I prefer my ladies to be on probation. The ankle bracelet makes it easier to locate them if they try to poof on me.
I love it when a woman can accessorize..DOC ankle bracelets can be sexy

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AndieIsMe wrote :
Is a criminal past an immediate deal breaker for you? What kinds of crimes might pass your sniff test? Have you even met a match who later admits to being incarcerated in the past?
Yes, I have met a match that later admitted to being incarcerated.

For me this would be a case by case basis, I would want to hear that person out first, before making any decision.

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TrekRyder10 wrote :
For me this would be a case by case basis, I would want to hear that person out first, before making any decision.
Never had a match admit to a criminal past. I agree with Trek, though, I'd have to decide based on the woman and what she had to say about it and where she was in life at the time of the offense and where she is while we are dating. That sounds wishy-washy, but a criminal past is not an immediate dealbreaker for me.

In general terms, anything involving violence, theft/fraud, or children would really put me off.
 
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generally speaking, i would say yes. a definite deal breaker.

something like a single, ancient, dui would not be a big deal. incarceration? deal breaker
 
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For a guy that learned something from it and moved on and it doesn't disrupt his life anymore in the present time.. that's one thing...

For the guy I meant 3 years ago... we get into his truck on the first date and as he goes to start the truck he says "here's the embarrassing part"... reaches down for the breathalyzer and then blows to start the truck... I HAVE A HUGE PROBLEM WITH!

He ended up having 5 DUI's and still had a license? Anyways... it's always a case by case basis, but that's my opinion.
 
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