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littlebluemonkeymind is offline littlebluemonkeymind Post #21  April 24,2010, 9:13pm
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PY_2 wrote :
You know what's refreshing?

A tall glass of nice, cold Mojito....extra rum, extra mint and extra lime!

Edit: Speaking of rehashing, I had hasbrown, eggs, bacon, two links and almond 7 grain pancakes for breakfast this morning!

I did not give LBMM the two stars lol....dont kill me my sweet monkey!
Well, get back up there and give me five, then pass the Mojito and I'll forgive you for not sharing the breakfast.
 
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What if I just switched genders on the original statement?

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- Gals, if you are so petty that it bothers you that guy is not paying or offering to pay occasionally and carrying fair financial share, you are not emotionally mature enough for a relationship.

further, if you do not have the money to pay for the dates and so rely on him to help defray the costs, you are not settled or established enough to be able to handle a relationship.

now, i am not here saying that guy the must not pay. if he insists, let him. but if you require him to "share the load" or do not have the resources to pay for your planned outings- get a second job, go back to school and earn a useful degree, or put in longer hours at work in order to advance your career until you have the money to date without burdening the subject of your romantic interest.

feel free to disagree.
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
It may be a rehash in title, but it certainly was refreshing in content.
thank you.

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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #24  April 24,2010, 9:28pm

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notyet wrote :
if you are so petty
notyet wrote :
you are not emotionally mature
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you are not settled
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get a second job, go back to school and earn a useful degree, or put in longer hours at work in order to advance your career until you have the money
I think these comments are uncalled for, inflammatory, and self-serving.
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This is the first I have seen you.

I must disagree with your post. I dont have a problem paying for dates...but there comes a poitn where she pays her part...

I am not a walking ATM...

My low hanging fruit isnt something you decide to yank and use as a slot machine until my eyes show ouble 7s
 
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notyet wrote :
i haven't been on a date in a while or dated anyone regularly for quite some time. but i've been thinking (dangerous, i know).

guys- if you are so petty that it bothers you that the lady is not paying or offering to pay occasionally and carrying her fair financial share, you are not emotionally mature enough for a relationship.

further, if you do not have the money to pay for the dates and so rely on her to help defray the costs, you are not settled or established enough to be able to handle a relationship.

now, i am not here saying that the lady must not pay. if she insists, let her. but if you require her to "share the load" or do not have the resources to pay for your planned outings- get a second job, go back to school and earn a useful degree, or put in longer hours at work in order to advance your career until you have the money to date without burdening the subject of your romantic interest.

feel free to disagree.
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guys- if you cannot afford to date- don't!
I've generally avoided the "who pays" threads in the past. Just no desire to add my input, really. These two statements sum up my feelings on the matter pretty well. It may seem sexist, cavalier, or old fashioned to those who hold those differing opinions I see on those particular threads. That's fine.

But I *really* don't see the point in getting upset about this. Seriously. There are lots bigger things in my life to worry about than whether or not the lass I am enjoying my time with is going to contribute financially to the date or not. If I can afford it, I will go ahead with the date. I haven't been asked out myself enough times for me to consider worrying that I don't have enough to pay for a date I've been invited to.

I am posting in this thread specifically because I support and identify with the statements above. I won't be forcing anyone else to go along with me. I will not be troubled if someone disagrees with me, either.

Notyet has addressed the men, so I expect there to be varied responses... Cries of hubris and groans of disappointment are likely to ensue. There is nothing new under the sun (so they say). *grin* This one doesn't bother me so much. I look at it as lauding the qualities of honor and discipline. I believe that these are Good Things. This, in my mind, sets a tone that I respect.

Carry on, good people. Pay, split, calculate as you so desire. May each of you find someone who appreciates you for the qualities you bring to the table, regardless of what you keep in your pocketses. *grin*
 
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ThePriestess wrote :
I think these comments are uncalled for, inflammatory, and self-serving.
duly noted, i should have used the pronoun "one." i apologize to any who may be inadvertently offended. the post is not aimed at any specific posters. i have not kept track of those who complain about always having to pay. in fact, i often avoid threads like this one and so do not know where you come down on this issue. nevertheless, i do not think one should be so strung out about sharing the costs as many men here seem to be.
 
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PY_2 wrote :
and almond 7 grain pancakes for breakfast this morning!
Now, those sound yummy! Recipe?
 
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