Women on EH with the goal of getting married


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SierraMountainAir is offline SierraMountainAir Post #41  April 24,2010, 1:19pm
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Gr8Guy, I'm puzzled by your puzzlement! (I am also not the person who one-starred your post. That one star puzzles me!)

In my post, when I said--and I'm not sure I'm quoting myself correctly because I can't see what i wrote--"Marriage is a preference, if not necessarily a goal," I meant that I am seeking a man for a LTR, preferably a lifelong one. If I find the right guy but he's just not the marrying kind, I'll accept those terms rather than leave him to try to find someone who would be willing to go through with the legal nuptials.

(Heck, it would probably take me another 45 years just to find another date!)
Lose the negativity and you have a first class two-pronged reality-based - approach there --- which should bode very well for you; I see no reason one should not bear fruit for you, sooner rather than later..

Dates are easy to get.

Really "good" ones, though, ahhhh, that's harder. < smiles >

Wishing you well....

Later.
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Jato87 is offline Jato87 Post #42  April 24,2010, 2:26pm
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #43  April 24,2010, 2:47pm

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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I think that's a really interesting question ~ and one so obvious none of us could see it so well done.

Obviously I have no idea about the proportion of women but from my man matches I'd say they all want to get married theoretically but none of them do in reality.

They tend to be middle aged never marrieds and shy divorced types. They like the idea of settling down but don't want to do anything to achieve that, they don't initiate and respond in ways that make me feel like I'm pulling teeth. There's lots of pussyfooting about meeting up and then no meeting up. They're not your alpha men or highly romantic men or even players! Maybe they see this as relationship ebay, all you do is pay and then you get a woman sent by parcelforce or something. Who knows? I don't.

For my own part, I'd like to get married but that'll happen or it won't. I'm using eharmony as another strand in my meet someone-good-and-fall-in-love strategy.

Oh, and I nearly forgot, I adore Wyoming, won't hear a word against it.
 
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margaret18 is offline margaret18 Post #44  April 24,2010, 3:56pm
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RoxyRedhead wrote :
few of the men I met on eH actually had marriage as a goal-that point was part of their profile, just as it is part of mine.
this caught my eye... i have thought of saying something like this in my profile, or somehow getting it said early on if i ever enter into communication with someone who is explicit about marriage in his profile, just to understand where we both are on this.

I agree with some of the other 45+ women who have commented, that women our age are not necessarily looking for marriage exactly... i know a few couples who are in LTR at my age or older but do not live together and are not married. keeps things simpler especially when older children are still at home in one household or both.

Just curious roxyredhead how you say this in your profile and what you have seen in others.
 
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j0hn8andy is offline j0hn8andy Post #45  April 25,2010, 8:45pm
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neardc wrote :
So, I can go out to Wyoming and just hang out in bars (hopefully they aren't all as scary as the one in the video)? I haven't even tried that here...lol.
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1. Add Montana to the list
2. Buy some summer wools for the trip
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As to Wyoming-a beautiful place that I lived in for what seemed to be 5 years but was only one year when I was young....I'd love to go back and visit but, while I like vacationing in out of the way places it wasn't the best spot for a California beach bunny to try and settle down!

Lots of manly men there-in the cities. Most of the rural areas however had young people who married right out of high school and followed in their parents farming/mining/ranching/oil tradition back then at least.
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Oh, and I nearly forgot, I adore Wyoming, won't hear a word against it.
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I have an uncle with a big old spread in Wyoming. More relatives in Montana. It's free country, with big skies.....a person can breathe there.

I'm willing to bet that if you did vacation in Wyoming.....maybe over near Jackson Hole, where you can see the Tetons and Yellowstone.....why, you may never want to get near DC again.

Just be careful driving.....there's still open range some places.

And that bar looked like fun to me.

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I'm likewise enticed to plan a visit to Wyoming now.
Based on what they advertise, I tend to believe women choose eHarm's website with the intention of meeting a marrying man. I don't see eHarm's marketing as a ploy or schtik -- the founder surely had a business plan. eHarm managers can't control those members whose profiles mask real intentions.
I actually believed the people on eHarm were the seekers of serious relationships (marriage notwithstanding). Who would pay their fees for hooking up when there's Plentyo'fish?
However, since joining the advice site, I know eHarm attracts the same type of people the other sites do. Maybe it's a quality thing.
I'm a 50 y/o with no interest in remarrying. Ever. I don't even mind a "his house, my house" sort of arrangement. So I wouldn't join seeking marriage, but I would join hoping to meet a sincere guy looking for a LTR/love.
So yeah, I think it depends on the age of women as to whether marriage is their goal with eHarm.
 
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deegoesgreen wrote :
I'm likewise enticed to plan a visit to Wyoming now.
If they drive like in Montana, be a leetle careful.

The pickup trucks tow horse trailers at 90 mph.

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Based on what they advertise, I tend to believe women choose eHarm's website with the intention of meeting a marrying man. I don't see eHarm's marketing as a ploy or schtik -- the founder surely had a business plan.
Yeah. "Maximizing Investors' Profit." Same as home builders nowadays.


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eHarm managers can't control those members whose profiles mask real intentions.
I actually believed the people on eHarm were the seekers of serious relationships (marriage notwithstanding). Who would pay their fees for hooking up when there's Plentyo'fish?
However, since joining the advice site, I know eHarm attracts the same type of people the other sites do. Maybe it's a quality thing.
I'm a 50 y/o with no interest in remarrying. Ever. I don't even mind a "his house, my house" sort of arrangement. So I wouldn't join seeking marriage, but I would join hoping to meet a sincere guy looking for a LTR/love.
So yeah, I think it depends on the age of women as to whether marriage is their goal with eHarm.
That is refreshing and well said, thank you Dee.
 
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