Apathy can be a good reason not to date?


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Apathy can be a good reason not to date.

I dont know how many people will find it "acceptable" but imo it shouldn't be some monumental deal breaker. maybe just because it describes me now, but then again i don't know if i will ever date again. still weighing the benefits in the balances. i'm sure a statement like that might make someone skeptical to get involved, but at least it's honest, and i think anyone with any dating experience under their belt would "get it"

This seems to me an ideal instance to conduct some "social dating."

If one has good fortune, one might even encounter a similar partner in doing so, and is thus ideally positioned to find a relationship actually does develop.

I think it is healthier to go in without having put hopes into the outcome. In that manner, one mitigates the risk of dissapointment.

This is related to why I favor a nice dinner: I prefer to think of a "date" as a meal shared with a stranger, where I have met for the porpose of the culinary experience. If anything, perchance, develops with said stranger, more's the better.
 
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I prefer to think of a "date" as a meal shared with a stranger, where I have met for the porpoise of the culinary experience. If anything, perchance, develops with said stranger, more's the better.
this is a nice attitude to have toward the whole thing. (and i'm not being sarcastic)
 
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and i didnt know you ate porpoise
 
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and i didnt know you ate porpoise

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apathy is kind of a nice feeling. Actually peacefullness...the peace of not being in a relationship.

Personally I guard it .... it's not so much fear of getting hurt it's just that sometimes I don't want to disrupt my apathy and peace (the apathy being toward dating/relationships/kissing frogs vs. princes). on a chance. But if something exceptional comes along....it might be worth the disruption.
 
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apathy is very relaxing. i turn my focus to other things. i start to think about the dating thing and start stressing out about paying, love, calling/not calling, and i get all turned off to it
 
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It's nice to be alone and not worry about being accepted fully by someone else, and trying to please them or maintain the relationship. Relationships can be so all consuming (if the guy makes you crazy, which happens...) you can really lose yourself.
 
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cp30 wrote :
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Excellent idea!
 
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I prefer to think of it as contentment.
 
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I've been HERE long enough to remember the original 'are you apathetic to dating' thread.

personally I think my staying power here actually exemplifies my ability to commit, despite difficulties, boredom, drama, etc.
 
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