angel_disguise is offline angel_disguise Post #1  April 23,2010, 11:33am
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How many dates before you consider yourselves exclusive? 3 dates and he is still on dating site.I am not sure how this dating thing works.i would feel uncomfortable dating someone else while I have been seeing another man.
 
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You cannot assume after three dates that you are exclusive. You need to talk to him about it. Tell him you want to only see him and would like it if he would only be dating you.
 
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You may be as old-fashioned as me. Prior to coming to this message board I had assumed that it was wrong/immoral/inappropriate/whatever to be seeing more than one person at a time. Then I come here and find out it's encouraged. If you are up front about multi-dating, and vice versa, then it's all good. The only way it's considered "wrong" is if you try to hide it. However, we're all different people, and if you're the kind of person who finds multi-dating uncomfortable then you have to think about how comfortable or uncomfortable you would feel about seeing someone who is okay with it.
 
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Hi Angel,
Is this the same guy you posted about in "is he into me"? ... I'm assuming it is, since you are not into dating more than one at a time!

You can ask him to be exclusive if you want, but the answer could be No, at this point ... not because he's not interested, but just because it's too soon for him. 3 dates is not a whole lot of time together ... to me it's too soon to be trying to establish that this is a significant relationship.

Another alternative is: don't get overly involved until you know this relationship is significant. Let him go ahead and date other people if he wants ... you don't have to. See what happens with the 2 of you.

That's my opinion. Other people will see things differently. You have to figure out what's right for you.
 
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I agree with the above advice.

(While you're at it, ask yourself if you have shown comporable interest - e.g., in arranging dates?)
 
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