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Hello. I just had a first date that I think it went very well and I am curious as to what should my next move be. Our first date we met at a mom & pop cafe. I expected us to talk for an hour or so and then head our separate ways. What I thought would take an hour or so actually turned into 3 and a half hours of talking and laughing. At the end I told her I really enjoyed myself and would like to see her again, to which she said "definitely". I texted her the next afternoon and told her about the great time I had and that we should meet up again soon, which she agreed. I want to take her out to a nice dinner, but I want to know if I should pick her up at her place and give her a rose? I'm not to sure how comfortable most woman are having a guy picking them up at their home on a second date and if a rose is cheesy. Thanks for any help you all can offer me.
 
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Ask her if she minds if you pick her up (which is very sweet, but I would probably say no for a second date) and if bringing her a single rose is something you want to do I would consider it a nice gesture!
 
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Good first-date follow up, now I would suggest calling her right away and making specific plans for the next date.

Regarding picking her up: I would offer her choices, something like, "I'd be glad to pick you up, but would understand if you'd rather meet somewhere. Let me know what you're most comfortable with."

Ix-nay on the rose. Nice thought, but save it for when you're further along in the relationship.

Good luck, and have fun!
 
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I have usually driven with a woman by the second meeting (and often the first, though this experience is outdated now.)

My guess is that if she likes you and feels comfortable, the odds are better then even she'll accept (it also makes her feel safer to drink, and not worry about parking.)

This is also her chance to invite you in, when you're done (which I am also used to by the second meeting.)

You might check, as we just had a thread about flowers, and the "I'd rather he didn't" seemed to predominate, but not by much (personally, I would not.)

I agree with the above advice to set a specific plan quickly (tonight, since tomorrow is Friday.)
 
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D_Lion wrote :

My guess is that if she likes you and feels comfortable, the odds are better then even she'll accept (it also makes her feel safer to drink, and not worry about parking.)
There may be other factors involved, as well. I have children at home and do not introduce them to my dates until we are well into an established relationship. Therefore, even if I like him and am comfortable with him I will continue meeting a date somewhere else, or go to his home first, if he asks.
 
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I would ask if she would like you to pick her up. However don't be concerned if she declines. Each person is different but she may not feel comfortable enough to have you pick her up.

Personally I would not go with a rose (or any other gift). But go with what the women say because it is quite evident that I have no clue.
 
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omg i would not sweat the rose thing that much. if a creepy guy brings a creepy rose its creepy if a cool guy brings a cool rose its cool. its not about the rose, its about her and what she thinks about you when she meets you and you
 
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Nanette wrote :
omg i would not sweat the rose thing that much. if a creepy guy brings a creepy rose its creepy if a cool guy brings a cool rose its cool. its not about the rose, its about her and what she thinks about you when she meets you and you

This is a reason it is foolish to bring any gift: it has no bearing on the outcome.
 
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i was about to edit it to say that the cool guy would be cooler if he brought a cool rose.

a creepy guy bringing a creepy rose is still creepy.

so i think it does matter. a little. but nothing to worry about either way.
 
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I think it is still a good idea to meet up at a agreed upon location on the second date. Good second date activities are the zoo. Taking a walk through a nature park. Basically an activity where you can continue to have nice conversation and get to know each other but in an area that is a little more private than the first date. And you should definitely go in for a kiss during the second date if you feel that the vibes are right.
 
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