qp106sd is offline qp106sd Post #1  April 22,2010, 10:26am
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A little background here... I'm new to EH, 3 days in now, but I have been on other sites (since 2001). The majority of it was in Chicago. I now live in Clearwater, FL. I'm noticing many more barely filled out profiles, seriously old photos and terrible grammar/punctuation. Is this just a location thing? I've never seen so many profiles like this in my life.

My main question is... how truthful are you on your profile? I don't see a lot of RelyID's on the men's profiles, not that it gives you more than name and age verification...

Is your height more of what you want... 5'10" in those good shoes, but 5' 8" flat barefooted?

Are you 39 but someone told you once you look 32, so you have 35 on your profile?

Are you really not that into arts but you're secretly a serious W.O.W fanatic?

Tell me your thoughts or experiences with the not so real profiles
 
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I maybe a little optimistic about this, but i have a feeling that people aren't really lying per se.

Yes, the whole age and height thing, you're an idiot if you lie about that. Concrete things that can be disproved without even trying, is a no brainer.

But other things, I honestly don't think they're lying. They're portraying themselves as what they THINK they are. Not what they really are.

I remember a class I took in college about death and aging. My professor told me that one day many years before, he was walking past a large pane class window and saw his reflection and his first thought was "who is this old guy standing next to me". He then realized, that it was him and that he is no longer the young man he thought himself to be. It was sort of a shock to him, even though he saw his reflection every day, but it was the first time he accepted that he had aged beyond the mid twenties view of himself. Pretty much, the lie wasn't told to you in the profile. It was told to themselves, and they told the truth, from the perspective.
 
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terrible grammar/punctuation. Is this just a location thing?
No.

You can thank "texting" for * THAT * .
 
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Out of three matches on EH. Two lied. The third poofed then returned and I still dont know (havent met in person) if he has been honest yet.
 
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qp106sd is offline qp106sd Post #5  April 22,2010, 11:30am
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6dle899 wrote :
No.

You can thank "texting" for * THAT * .
Very TRUE! I guess I assume that men my age and older hadn't grown up with it and should still be able to form a full sentence answer to a straight question.

Silly me
 
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No.

You can thank "texting" for * THAT * .
That and memory.
I am so thankfull I never did drugs.
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qp106sd wrote :
A little background here... I'm new to EH, 3 days in now, but I have been on other sites (since 2001). The majority of it was in Chicago. I now live in Clearwater, FL. I'm noticing many more barely filled out profiles, seriously old photos and terrible grammar/punctuation. Is this just a location thing? I've never seen so many profiles like this in my life.

My main question is... how truthful are you on your profile? I don't see a lot of RelyID's on the men's profiles, not that it gives you more than name and age verification...

Is your height more of what you want... 5'10" in those good shoes, but 5' 8" flat barefooted?

Are you 39 but someone told you once you look 32, so you have 35 on your profile?

Are you really not that into arts but you're secretly a serious W.O.W fanatic?

Tell me your thoughts or experiences with the not so real profiles
Unfortunately Florida has one of the worse dating pools in the US. A lot of it has to do with the transient nature of a warm weather locale. I'm glad you mentioned this. Everyone thought I was nuts dating long distance but unfortunately in this the "land of the run away state" better background check. The business card you've been handed is usually the fantasy being played out in a person's head, and that house on the Intra-coastal is either in foreclosure, or you got to keep it after declaring bankruptcy. Not being negative, but that is just the way that it is. I've resorted to changing my location and thankfully can do because I travel a bit - amazingly my matches get immediately better. The misrepresentation here is scary. Unfortunately you can't take most at face value. I've lived in 5 states so have something to compare it with. Good luck!
 
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I consider myself pretty truthful in my profile. I actually poseted it on the Using Eharmony to get some feedback on how I could make it a bit better. Even though I want to make it better I would never lie about something just to make me look good. I guess it is an age thing and the way I was brought up. I never understood honestly why people feel they must lie to someone just to get them to go out with them. If they can't except you for who you are then it is their loss and if you can't be honest to someone then you don't need to be with them.

The RelyID thing I don't do, but was wondering if it is really necessary or not. I have not ran across alot of profiles that actually use it though.
 
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qp106sd wrote :
A little background here... I'm new to EH, 3 days in now, but I have been on other sites (since 2001). The majority of it was in Chicago. I now live in Clearwater, FL. I'm noticing many more barely filled out profiles, seriously old photos and terrible grammar/punctuation. Is this just a location thing? I've never seen so many profiles like this in my life.

My main question is... how truthful are you on your profile? I don't see a lot of RelyID's on the men's profiles, not that it gives you more than name and age verification...

Is your height more of what you want... 5'10" in those good shoes, but 5' 8" flat barefooted?

Are you 39 but someone told you once you look 32, so you have 35 on your profile?

Are you really not that into arts but you're secretly a serious W.O.W fanatic?

Tell me your thoughts or experiences with the not so real profiles
Welcome to Florida the state with the worst education system in the nation.

What is in my profile is the truth. I have a birth certificate, and it is a true and verified copy, that indicates that I am in fact 57 years old. My drivers license says that I am 5'4" tall and that is what is on my profile. I make no claims about art one way or the other, and I can't say that I know what W.O.W. is so I don't know if I am a fanatic or not. If you want to find out more you can check out my profile here. What is there is real with the exception of the reasonably obvious bits of humor.
 
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I consider myself pretty truthful in my profile. I actually posted it on the Using Eharmony to get some feedback on how I could make it a bit better. Even though I want to make it better I would never lie about something just to make me look good. I guess it is an age thing and the way I was brought up. I never understood honestly why people feel they must lie to someone just to get them to go out with them. If they can't except you for who you are then it is their loss and if you can't be honest to someone then you don't need to be with them.

The RelyID thing I don't do, but was wondering if it is really necessary or not. I have not ran across a lot of profiles that actually use it though.
RelyID is an extra cost thing that eHarmony sells. Very few people use it and I would not recommend that you get it as it really does not verify that you are who you say you are.
 
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