isis1980 is offline isis1980 Post #1  April 21,2010, 7:25pm
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lol. I'm sorry but I really need to vent

Ok. I met this guy a month ago. We hang out almost every weekend. Text, email and he calls me. So this past weekend we went up to Palm Beach and caught a comedy show then stayed in a really nice hotel in Delray beach Saturday night. We had a great time. Sunday evening after he dropped me off he sent me a text saying he had a great time with me and he had a lot of fun then about an hour later he called me. We talked for a while. Monday we texted, Tuesday night he texted me asking about my day. Today, I figured I would initiate and see how his day was going. At 5 today I emailed him and he hasn't responded. So now I'm like ok is this dude not interested in me anymore and if so why can't he just come out and say that instead of ignoring me. I'm usually really good at reading the signs and knowing when a dude is really interested and to the best of my knowledge he has been giving the signs that he is interested. I'm soo tired of men and dating. Help
 
 
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lol. I'm sorry but I really need to vent

Ok. I met this guy a month ago. We hang out almost every weekend. Text, email and he calls me. So this past weekend we went up to Palm Beach and caught a comedy show then stayed in a really nice hotel in Delray beach Saturday night. We had a great time. Sunday evening after he dropped me off he sent me a text saying he had a great time with me and he had a lot of fun then about an hour later he called me. We talked for a while. Monday we texted, Tuesday night he texted me asking about my day. Today, I figured I would initiate and see how his day was going. At 5 today I emailed him and he hasn't responded. So now I'm like ok is this dude not interested in me anymore and if so why can't he just come out and say that instead of ignoring me. I'm usually really good at reading the signs and knowing when a dude is really interested and to the best of my knowledge he has been giving the signs that he is interested. I'm soo tired of men and dating. Help
You emailed him at 5....now barely three hours later you post about tired of men and dating because he hasn't responded.

I think you just made the previous complainers look like patient saints!

(just so you know....many posters here wait at least 24-48 hours plus before freaking out!)

hey maybe he knows you're tired of men so he wants to give you a break!
 
 
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It's only been a few hours..
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He texted you yesterday, give the guy a chance to live his life. I personally think a day of not texting with all the back and forth you have going on already is not a bad thing. Just chill out a bit and don't worry over one day of non communication.
 
 
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thanks for the replies
 
 
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Please vent, it really helps. But honestly, it sounds to me like you have been toyed with in the past. Where you either called someone, text someone, or met with someone and then they dissapeared out of the blue. Or coldly rejected you, and now you are paranoid. You are not alone hun! Believe me, we all go through that part of our dating lives where we wonder and worry and bite our nails, cuticles, etc. because a guy/girl has not responded to our text or call. And sometimes, it hurts worse when you have something happen to you without reason! Without warning. I'd give him time. He may not want to seem too despirate. In addition, you now how reliable texting is! He may not have even gotten your message. I'd say if you have not heard from him in a day, send him another message and say something like "hey, did you get my text? I haven't heard from you and am just making sure you are ok" or better yet, call him, if you get his voice mail leave him a similar message. That way you can ensure that he got it. If he doesn't call/text after that, then if you want closure, you could send him one last message about "wish i knew why you suddenly are not interested, but i guess you are not, so good luck".... and then say to yourself Good Riddens cause you don't need a game player!
 
 
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isis1980 wrote :
lol. I'm sorry but I really need to vent

Ok. I met this guy a month ago. We hang out almost every weekend. Text, email and he calls me. So this past weekend we went up to Palm Beach and caught a comedy show then stayed in a really nice hotel in Delray beach Saturday night. We had a great time. Sunday evening after he dropped me off he sent me a text saying he had a great time with me and he had a lot of fun then about an hour later he called me. We talked for a while. Monday we texted, Tuesday night he texted me asking about my day. Today, I figured I would initiate and see how his day was going. At 5 today I emailed him and he hasn't responded. So now I'm like ok is this dude not interested in me anymore and if so why can't he just come out and say that instead of ignoring me. I'm usually really good at reading the signs and knowing when a dude is really interested and to the best of my knowledge he has been giving the signs that he is interested. I'm soo tired of men and dating. Help
You emailed him 4 & 1/2 hours ago and he hasn't responded? That's a big red flag! I'm guessing he's either a player, married or simply not interested.
 
 
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You emailed him 4 & 1/2 hours ago and he hasn't responded? That's a big red flag! I'm guessing he's either a player, married or simply not interested.
I agree!!! Definitely a red flag. Oh well. It was fun while it lasted. thanks
 
 
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Why aren't you busy enough not to have noticed that he didn't respond yet?

And let's not bash all men here just because one didn't happen to behave the way you think you wanted!
 
 
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Why aren't you busy enough not to have noticed that he didn't respond yet?
lmaooo I have no life I guess. I usually wouldnt care but Im starting to really like this guy but I guess I need to pump the brakes and not like him. Glad this happen so I could catch myself. I just want to have a time when I can get excited about a guy again without wondering in the back of my mind when he's gonna act brand new on me. Is that too much to ask for??
 
 
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