Question: how many REALLY good dating profiles have you read?


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As someone who has used a fair amount of online dating sites in the past (never eHarmony though, because I was in a LTR for almost 8 years, and then I worked here!) I can probably count on one hand the amount of times I've read a REALLY good dating profile.

What say you? Overall, regardless of site, are you reading* a lot of great profiles, or are those definitely in the minority?

*reading, as in without giving consideration to the photographs which accompany the profile.


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I've read very, very few well-written profiles. In fact, when I come across one, it makes me sit up and take notice, and it also makes me more likely to initiate communication with the person who wrote it. Unfortunately, most of the time it seems like the men I'm matched with are into one-word or short phrase responses, and it often seems as if they just wrote the profile in 5 minutes and posted it. There are also several fields that go unanswered, as well as "witty" responses (that aren't) to questions they'd rather not answer. I have no doubt that we women are guilty of the same things.

Do people not realize that their profile is representative of who they are and what they have to offer to a prospective date, and that people are essentially window shopping when they look at their matches? Or do many of them not really care? I've had people who are going through the online dating process, and who I also trust implicitly, rip my profile to shreds so I could make my profile the most well-written, best representation of me that I possibly can, because I do want to make the best use of this tool as I can. Maybe I just see it differently, I don't know....
 
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A Great PRofile usually equates to a sales job and likely a con game from someone from Africa.

There are two type of nice profiles...what is written (men and woman would have different opinions) and what is seen in pictures.

A guy seeing some woman in a borderline naked shot they will likely reply to them without thinking. There are some sites like adultfriendfinder that you do see some very graphic photos.
 
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
As someone who has used a fair amount of online dating sites in the past (never eHarmony though, because I was in a LTR for almost 8 years, and then I worked here!) I can probably count on one hand the amount of times I've read a REALLY good dating profile.

What say you? Overall, regardless of site, are you reading* a lot of great profiles, or are those definitely in the minority?

*reading, as in without giving consideration to the photographs which accompany the profile.


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ami1uwant wrote :
A Great PRofile usually equates to a sales job and likely a con game from someone from Africa.

There are two type of nice profiles...what is written (men and woman would have different opinions) and what is seen in pictures.

A guy seeing some woman in a borderline naked shot they will likely reply to them without thinking. There are some sites like adultfriendfinder that you do see some very graphic photos.
I have found that with the con artists, most of the time, that it is all too painfully clear that English is their second language.
 
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Sadly only one profile that I can remember. It was hilarious - written tongue in cheek as "the greatest man in the world". Too bad this particular match was far far away. I remember actually laughing out loud when I read it.
 
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I would say over the years, maybe a dozen or so that made me sit up in my chair. Every once in awhile, I'll come across a profile that shows that person put in the wrench time. And I don't mean well-written..I am talking about, thinking outside the box stuff. Totally eye-catching and refreshing.

I'm always tinkering with my profile(s). There are a select few here, that I've let read my profile. I receive a lot of comments on my profile, so I feel it's unique
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
I can probably count on one hand the amount of times I've read a REALLY good dating profile.

What say you? Overall, regardless of site, are you reading* a lot of great profiles, or are those definitely in the minority?
The way in which a profile was written probably meant more to me than the information it contained, especially since every single person in the world is attractive, smart, funny, loving, kind etc. (and all the guys have a higher than average sex drive) - so I got more out of how they wrote rather than what they wrote. So yeah, the profiles that appealed to me were more rare than not, just like people who actually appeal to me are fewer than those who do not. I suspect that might be true of everyone, though.
 
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In my experience, most profile are boring. A large minority are awfule. Only a few a very good.

There is a difference between a well-written profile, in the sense that it displays correct use of english; one with creative narrative; and one which meets my taste of how a dating profile should be.

I can't recall any that fit all three.

I also don't care much: I have met enough people to know that quality of profile has no bearing on quality of person (and I have some experience that the best profiles were by lonely people with limited dating success.

So, now I don't put much care into sparse or witty answers.
 
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The good ones are few and far between. Most of the profiles I come across are filled with cliches or are too overdone. For example, more words doesn't necessarily equal better content.
 
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