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MWK is offline MWK Post #1  April 21,2010, 12:06pm
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Met for the first date just over a week ago, and all went very well. She offered her number without having to ask, she went in for the hug first, saying dont forget you have my number. Conversation was also very good. I sent a message on the way home, she responded saying she really had a good time.

1 day went by, and then we started exchanging regular multiple emails each day or so - as we were both working odd hours. This lasted for about 3-4 days off and on. The emails were very comfortable and eager, happy faces and joking etc. Even told me she mentioned me to a friend of hers who indirectly works for my company (we dont know each other). Seems all good signs I would think No??
So then in the last email I received from her, she says sure, she would love to have dinner and tentatively booked a 2nd date in response to my previous email. I respond back saying great, lets chat soon and arrange a confirmed date - as it was over a week away as we both work shift work. I also asked when is a safe time to call with the shift work as to not wake her.

I have not gotten a reply and that was 4 days ago (all previous replies were only a few hours or the next day)... 2 days ago, I thought I would call and try and get her before she went to work. Got voice mail and left a message, Called to say Hi and see if maybe you wanted to squeeze a lunch in, in between the shifts or we can wait till the tentative dates. No call back either.

So im a little confused, but maybe I shouldnt be.. no reply or call back always means the same thing right??? Confusing part is, communication etc went from a 10, to a complete drop off zero. Perhaps busy, perhaps wanted a break (communication was always mutual, so not like I was being creepy).

Question is... Should I bother to send another message and/or call? and when? The 2nd tentative date (unconfirmed) is approaching in 6 days.

or just forget it?
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #2  April 21,2010, 12:20pm

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Two calls? Time to hang out, do your own thing and let her return the calls.

Don't be waiting next to your phone though.
 
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Call her and leave a message and wait for her to call you back.

Dont wait by the phone for her.

Alot of things could have happened given the odd hours.
 
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MWK is offline MWK Post #4  April 21,2010, 12:23pm
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No it was me replying last of many emails, then no response, then 1 call with no call back. But I guess technically the same as 2 calls.
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tenderheart105 is offline tenderheart105 Post #5  April 21,2010, 1:28pm
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That does sound frustrating. You have already left 2 messages. As long as she has a way to contact you I would say the ball is in her court. If you don't hear from her in a few days consider it a loss and go out with someone else.
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She poofed. It was only one date and for some unknown reason(s) she decided not to continue communicating.

Most often when this type of thing happens, it's because she became more interested in pursuing someone else.

Let go and move on.
 
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If she's doing shift work, maybe she's tired and doesn't want to call you when she's in that condition. If you do hear from her, I would set up a definite date rather than stringing things along.
 
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robv_la wrote :
She poofed. It was only one date and for some unknown reason(s) she decided not to continue communicating.

Most often when this type of thing happens, it's because she became more interested in pursuing someone else.

Let go and move on.
Yep that is usually how it goes. Even when I am continuously talking to someone and meeting them I am always talking to others as well. And it often doesn't take much to get my focus switched to someone else.
 
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As some of the others said she poofed.

I only will leave one message. If they don't respond then I move on. It is their loss.
 
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Pooooooooohhhhhhfffff. Stings a little.
 
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