TXButtercup is offline TXButtercup Post #1  April 20,2010, 10:37pm
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What would inspire people who have little to no regard for the opposite gender to seek a relationship with someone from that gender?

I find this question going through my mind more and more these days, particularly with regard to dating sites intended to be geared toward those interested in a committed relationship.

I am not trying to be flippant. It is just becoming quite bothersome and I am really curious.
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As a self professed man hater at this current time I will give you my reasons for wanting to have a committed relationship.
I want certain things from a man and even though I believe that a good number of men are not up to snuff, there may be a man that is. There is some element of intimacy that every human needs to be emotionally healthy. It is something not even a best friend can fulfill. Its all purely psychological.
 
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Can you give me something more concrete to work with ...?
 
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I think dating has many hurt souls that date before they are really ready. Fact is relationships leave scars and you can either grow from them or let them fester. People seek a relationship for different reasons but mainly it is the need to interact with another.

Just keep your eyes open for the souls that really are looking for a committed relationship. They are out there even if they have their own scars they learned from. Those that are still carrying the chips on their shoulder just need more time to heal and are usually easy to spot.
 
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May we surmise an unusual rise in the number of matches you've closed recently?

Perhaps society makes some people feel obligated to be in a relationship, while otherwise they would not pursue one.
 
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A guy might want a relationship even though he has no regard for women when:

1) He wants arm candy for social events.
2) Views women as possessions
3) Views women primarily as sex objects
4) Is egotistical
5) Is self-centered.

I'm sure I'm missing some things here.

A woman might have no regard for men, but seek a relationship because:

1) social pressure to be in a couple
2) want the physical intimacy relationships bring
3) want to get married at some point and have kids
4) want a guy she can take to social events.
5) wants a suggar daddy.
 
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I think its the deep need to connect with another person.

Some people are so challenged they would likely never make good relationships. I think many of the rest of us are just struggling past things that have hurt us in the best way we know how.

When I see a man or a woman hater I try to see the hurt person beyond the facade. Then again there are some people that don't want to feel or do better and they get some sort of enjoyment out of their own loathing of the opposite sex. Those are the ones that I avoid.

I mean, if someone that has been hurt is trying to adapt in an unusual way that isn't hurting otheres I can handle that, but I can't deal with the ones that just want to bash.

Other than that I have no idea.
 
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TXButtercup wrote :
What would inspire people who have little to no regard for the opposite gender to seek a relationship with someone from that gender?
I have no idea.
I can't think of any good reason why someone would because, inevitably, the truth comes out.
And that includes every situation that's been listed in this thread, so far.
 
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My father hates women, yet he remarried almost immediately upon divorcing my mother. He can't stand the thought of being alone and without attention. Robv_la's list hits most if not all of the bases.

(He is one of those who does not wish to change his loathing. It gives him self-perceived power and drive. Or so says his therapist of many years.)
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TXButtercup wrote :
What would inspire people who have little to no regard for the opposite gender to seek a relationship with someone from that gender?.
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I find this question going through my mind more and more these days, particularly with regard to dating sites intended to be geared toward those interested in a committed relationship.
This part I agree with you. They could go to craigslist or lavalife and leave women on eH alone
 
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