Tight and/or low-cut clothing is distracting to men and sends the wrong message.


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Jelize is offline Jelize Post #1  April 19,2010, 4:32pm
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Tight and/or low-cut clothing is distracting to men and sends the wrong message. Women can defend this kind of clothing all they want in terms of embracing their beauty or trying to cool off (lower-cut fits this, Tightness does Not) or whatever, but the bottom line is poor guys have a much stronger sex drive than we do, and we shouldn't expect them to focus on our smiles and what we're saying if our clothes are screaming sex.

I've been trying recently to find sleeveless tops because of the heat, and it has taken me hours and hours and hours just to find 5 tops that aren't too low or too tight (or made of some hot sticky synthetic). One of them is even a little borderline, so I'll have to be careful about bending over without holding my shirt. (Even a top that shows cleavage only when you bend over still makes it much harder for any guy that sees that). Shirts that were loose enough were too low, high enough, too tight. Occasionally I would see a top with a high enough neckline and not too tight- but it would be covered in bling or have a big flower hanging on it or something.

I can find many, many more clothes I like from thrift stores because those are from years past (before current trends), but there aren't many sleeveless choices, because those didn't use to be as popular.
So I set out, and discovered the current fashions are all about low necklines, a tight-fit, and bling- wow- I can't believe the number of tops with fake gems and even Necklaces attached to them. Then there's the lacy tops that look like lingerie. I was most disturbed by how immodest clothes even in the juniors department were. I wouldn't be surprised one bit if teen pregnancy goes up as a result. That's another reason to dress modestly- because teens will just think you're a hypocrite if you expect them to cover up while you flaunt it. (Even if you say it's different for them because such and such a reason...).

I can't wait for it all to go back out of style and trend, one day, back towards comfort and modesty and no-nonsense (leave off all the added decor, which also means more non-renewable resources going towards more things than now, and harder to care for clothing, and more expensive clothing because of the extras). Anyway, at least consider modesty (vote for modest/less immodest clothing with your dollars)- Biologically males have a stronger sex drive, which you can't blame them for. Don't make it that much harder for them.
 
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Err....

Just exactly what had you hoped for in responses to this thread?
 
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Mr79percent is offline Mr79percent Post #3  April 19,2010, 4:43pm
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I don't mind....honest...
 
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Men that I know and have dated, been in relationships with and even married don't seem to lose control at the sight of cleavage or a tight pair of jeans. I think you should give men a little more credit.

There are also plenty of more modest clothes out there that you can cover yourself up in however you like.

You may want to go clothes shopping in different shops that you currently are looking in; there really are tons of options.
 
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*bends over strategically in her low-cut top and waits to trip highly-sexed, distracted men as they walk by oogling.*
 
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I can understand the style of the day not going with what you’d prefer. I can even understand dressing sensibly if you want to be a good example to the younger generation…

But how a lady dresses is her business. She should take into account that dressing in certain types of clothing *will* attract more male attention. However, men *can* control themselves, else there would be *truly* massive amounts of unwanted amorous attacks on the beaches in summer by men unable to control their lusts…

I appreciate most women’s sense of style. I can appreciate a relatively low cut blouse and well fitted jeans or a snug dress without losing my mind completely- I am still responsible for my own actions. I may have a stronger sex drive than many women, but I have been able to keep it in check these last seven years, despite temptation. I expect many men could tell you the same. We do have desires- but these are still subject to our willpower. If we had none (or very little), civilization would collapse rather quickly, I think.

I *like* to see women dressed nicely. I don’t ogle, or leer. I appreciate. I compliment. How you choose to dress is your business- and what you urge other women to do is between you and them. Kindly do not denigrate men in generalization by implying we won’t be able to see your smile at all if your neckline swoops down to your cleavage. Granted, it is a nice distraction sometimes. But there are men out there who can see that and *still* manage to notice a good smile, bright, friendly eyes, and even hold a decent conversation for more than five minutes! *grin*

Lasses, as a plea on behalf of all men:

Please do not give up sundresses, nice jeans, and the little black dress any time soon! I can understand dressing for the occasion, but we men appreciate all that hard work you put in to looking good. Believe me, we really, really do! *grin*
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I'm just going to give up posting altogether and follow Wootz around five-starring him.
 
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
*bends over strategically in her low-cut top and waits to trip highly-sexed, distracted men as they walk by oogling.*
*smack!! runs into a parking meter.*

Okay to be serious though. I had to put in the middle on this one because the question is worded weird. If your question is "does it send the wrong message?" no... it doesn't. I don't assume that just because a girl shows a little cleavage or wears a short skirt that she will immediately jump into bed with me.

However, if you don't want men looking at your cleavage or your sexy legs or gluteus maximus then I suggest covering it up. Men will defiantly look any man who tells you otherwise is lying. There is a vast difference between looking and staring, I don't think there's anything wrong with catching a glance.
 
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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
Err....

Just exactly what had you hoped for in responses to this thread?
It does seem to be just a wee bit of a vent, doesn't it
 
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