hondolane is offline hondolane Post #1  April 18,2010, 6:57pm
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long distance relationship bout a year says she loves me, but can't see me now cuz of some fights we have had lately
says she needs to get to know me again? was going to move herein june with me now thts off.
we have been trying to see each other for awhile but there always seems to be a reason why we can't meet
her mother or her daughter now she says she is nervous with me online let alone in person and needs time? from the fights.
i truly feel she loves me but i have been supporting her for awhile and now i am beginning to doubt if its real
she maintains contact continually online and we talk for hours on the phone
she can't or won't or is not able to see me but takes my money?
am i just a jerk here?
 
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Georgetheman is offline Georgetheman Post #2  April 19,2010, 11:00am
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You need to sit down with her, face to face, and have a long talk. Perhaps consider not sending her any money until she makes time for you for this conversation.
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #3  April 19,2010, 11:03am

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stop sending money.
 
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insertscreenname is offline insertscreenname Post #4  April 19,2010, 11:07am
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Dude! Wake up you're being fleeced! She loves your wallet not you. Cut contact and stop sending money.
 
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Mokkesofie is offline Mokkesofie Post #5  April 19,2010, 11:10am
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Sorry, but she's taking you for a ride!
 
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DancingFool is offline DancingFool Post #6  April 19,2010, 11:19am
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Actually I'm curious about what kind of fighting are you talking about how heated is it getting? Is her saying that she is tired and becoming afraid of you something reasonable?
 
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Mokkesofie wrote :
Sorry, but she's taking you for a ride!
The bad kind!
 
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robv_la is offline robv_la Post #8  April 19,2010, 11:33am
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Definitely stop sending her money, right away! Also stop any contact with her.

Does this sound drastic?

First never support someone else that you are dating. It is never your responsibility to finance someone's life just because you are dating and/or sleeping with them.

Some people (men and women) will try to take advantage of people they date. This one roommate of mine would date women and have them pay for his vacations he took alone, during which he'd sleep around with other women.

Also try to be aware when someone you are dating tries to manipulate you into paying for their stuff. Many times they will tell you about electricity that will be shut off, or that they need rent money or something. Don't do it.

It is wrong for her to accept money from you. You are not married, you did not father her child. You do not want to continue to date someone who is not responsible for themselves.
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hondolane wrote :
am i just a jerk here?
Yup.
 
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Buck is offline Buck Post #10  April 19,2010, 11:57am
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Needing money to survive may well be Dealbreaker #1. How can you possibly evaluate a "budding" or otherwise "non-established" relationship that includes this factor?

Whether to stop sending money is a no-brainer. I wouldn't go so far as to discontinue contact immediately, but that just might happen naturally - like very soon after the mailman stops delivering checks.
 
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