Unrealistic guy or is it me?

After reading this with the thread you started today I would have to ask are you sure you are the one who doesn't know what compromise is. He has a very limited schedule and wanted to spend time with you and his children. Although kinda strange taking you on a vacation with his son was a compromise.

My boyfriend met my kids fairly early because with my work and school schedule that was the only way we could spend time together. Not as romantic but an effective use of time. I could be very wrong but the feeling I get from you is you want him and no one else. That you feel like you should be the center of his universe.

There is nothing per se wrong about this attitude but if you are not willing to change this the man you are dating is not for you.

I say let it go because he isn't going to change no matter how you frame the story.

I have to go to the compromise thread now. Who's compromising and who isn't? Or is it a bit of each?

Really not enough information. She says he is not but there are no examples of him not compromising. This seems to be an example of him trying in a rather unusual way. Perhaps she thinks it is a compromise for her to allow him to cycle while she does her work. Not sure.

I've been wondering about this myself. It seems like she's not sure about the relationship and is looking for a way out. The "compromise" issue might be the excuse she's looking for.

It seems to me if you take away the claim that they want to be together and just look at what is presented they are not compatible. So there is either something we haven't heard about or one or both of them is hoping the other will change.

Problem with changing people is even if you can pull it off it gives them the whole I changed for you attitude which usually destroys a relationship over time. I think they should just accept their differences and move on.

I would not accept a woman trying to change my work schedule, but recreational interests i would be open to negotiate.