How long to call after first date?


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disilluzion is offline disilluzion Post #1  April 17,2010, 11:08am
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Wait a day, send an email or text a few hours later? I've been married 7 years and recently started dating again and not sure of the protocol.
 
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if you want to go out with her again i would call within a couple of days and ask her out again.
 
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Call her when you want to talk to her.
 
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bwight is offline bwight Post #4  April 17,2010, 1:05pm
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There are no rules. Call her when it feels right.
 
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ThePriestess wrote :
Call her when you want to talk to her.
That's crazy talk!

I thought we were only supposed to call when she wouldn't answer, then not leave a message and complain about lack of communication.
 
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18 hours, 37 minutes and 24 seconds. Any sooner, you're too desperate. Any later, you clearly aren't into other person.

But in all seriousness, there are no rules.
 
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You wait a minimum of 2 days, a maximum of 3.

If you call back the next day, it makes you look clingy, and that you are looking for affirmation because you yourself were not confident.

At 2 days, enough time has passed where you do not look clingy. At the same time, it is also just short enough to still appear confident. But it also tells her that you are not a game player.

At 3 days, the woman begins to wonder. And, whether she admits it or not, the wonder and the mystery are a part of the fun. If she likes the game, then you're in. But don't wait any longer. At 4 days, it clearly says you are not interested.
 
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I like a text shortly after the date and a phone call a couple of days later to plan the next.

Good luck.
 
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VB_Girl wrote :
I like a text shortly after the date and a phone call a couple of days later to plan the next.

Good luck.
I agree with VB.. if you enjoyed the date with me, send me a quick text telling me so then do a follow up call for that secon date. Try not to make the lady wait too long.
 
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