mari3434 is offline mari3434 Post #1  April 17,2010, 12:54am
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Has anyone gone through a period of time where you had no interest in dating or romance or affection? Since I was 14, I always liked that stuff. However, in the last year, I almost feel numb - if someone told me I would be without an SO till my death, I'd be ok with that. Is this just a phase that will hopefully end? And I do get the attention...I just reject it. Just wondering if it is normal for people to feel this way for a period of time and it just subsequently runs its course.... I have to admit, it kinda disturbs me that I feel this blah
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There can be other things that demand your time and attention, have you inventoried them lately?

Alone time, too, (and for a long time!) can be fine for reflection and defining what your goals are. But over a year, that's a real long time, isn't it?

But if you are thinking you SHOULD have companionship and affection, and you honestly miss it, then it is time to seek it or at least be open to to it.

With the RIGHT person it can be wonderful, magic, we know that....and we only live once..

FWIW, I* always *, at night, before I sleep, smile and count my blessings, and, as a result of this, I drop off really quickly, to sleep..
 
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There can be other things that demand your time and attention, have you inventoried them lately? Yes, I am a mother of a one teenage daughter and practice law..lol.

Alone time, too, (and for a long time!) can be fine for reflection and defining what your goals are. But over a year, that's a real long time, isn't it? Indeed, this is what concerns me

But if you are thinking you SHOULD have companionship and affection, and you honestly miss it, then it is time to seek it or at least be open to to it. I'm not thinking anything..which is definitely out of my element. I figure it is not normal, given that I am only 34.

With the RIGHT person it can be wonderful, magic, we know that....and we only live once..

FWIW, I* always *, at night, before I sleep, smile and count my blessings, and, as a result of this, I drop off really quickly, to sleep..
I just usually drop off to sleep and enjoy same
 
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I did, i thought i was suffering from depression but it turned out to be hypothyroidism which has very similar symptoms.
 
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I did, i thought i was suffering from depression but it turned out to be hypothyroidism which has very similar symptoms.
I know my mother suffers from a thyroid problem and consequently has no S** drive. Maybe I should see the doctor..
 
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Losing interest in dating/romance/affection usually happens to me after a bad breakup. The first time happened during undergrad and I took an 8 year hiatus from dating. Most recently, I stopped dating for 4 years, up until joining eH a few months ago.
 
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mari3434 wrote :
Has anyone gone through a period of time where you had no interest in dating or romance or affection? Since I was 14, I always liked that stuff. However, in the last year, I almost feel numb - if someone told me I would be without an SO till my death, I'd be ok with that.
I'd be okay with it for me.

I don't lose interest in people, I lose interest in dating, and I think there is a large distinction to be made there.

I reject interest too, because I just don't want to be bothered by it at the moment (or I find the person unattractive in the first fraction of a second), I never really looked at it as indicative of a problem.

idk if you feel like its a problem then I guess it is?
 
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mari3434 from what you have said in your posts I would suggest that you have a chat with your doctor, particularly since there is a family history.

Wish you all the best.
 
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mari3434 wrote :
I know my mother suffers from a thyroid problem and consequently has no S** drive. Maybe I should see the doctor..
That would be the best idea, not all thyroid problems are inherited but if there is a family history it's always a good idea to get it checked out. If it does turn out to be that then it is very treatable.
Interestingly my problem never reduced my sex drive at all unless it just brought it down out of hyperspace, it did make me very apathetic about expending the least effort to satisfy it though, people were just too much hassle.
 
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This is a common feeling often triggered by spending some time here.
 
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