She dumped me after one date!!


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bwight is offline bwight Post #1  April 15,2010, 7:55pm
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Okay I'm lying, my real question here is what is wrong with these people? I see all these threads with people who have been in "relationships" less than 2 weeks who claim they have been dumped by someone. Is that even really possible? At what point do you consider it being simply not interested vs dumping?

If I go on 2 dates with someone do you consider that dumping if I never see them again or just me not being interested? To me it seems a little much to be claiming someone dumped you just because you go on a date with them.

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She dumped me during Guided Communication.
 
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She dumped me during Guided Communication.
 
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mrflyer is offline mrflyer Post #4  April 15,2010, 8:02pm
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I agree- it's ridiculous. I wouldn't consider it being dumped until there was a relationship.

It's like going to a job interview and saying you got fired because they didn't hire you.
 
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Agreed that it's completely crazy - there is no relationship even after several dates.

However I have noticed for quite some time now with my dates that people (guys in my case) try to go from we just met to relationship rather than meet, date, and let things grow into a relationship as you get to know each other. It's really weird. It's like everyone is looking for that instant "the one".
 
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DancingFool wrote :
Agreed that it's completely crazy - there is no relationship even after several dates.

However I have noticed for quite some time now with my dates that people (guys in my case) try to go from we just met to relationship rather than meet, date, and let things grow into a relationship as you get to know each other. It's really weird. It's like everyone is looking for that instant "the one".
I've noticed this even in Open Communication. I guess we live in a society with instant gratification, so some people have decided that merely talking to someone is the same as having a relationship with them?
 
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MicMan wrote :
I've noticed this even in Open Communication. I guess we live in a society with instant gratification, so some people have decided that merely talking to someone is the same as having a relationship with them?
Sure seems like it doesn't it? Just looking at all the anxious posts on these boards about how they are e-mailing with someone and they quit - the stress and anxiety is the equivalent of the fall of a long term relationship, yet it's all over a complete stranger they've never even met before and don't even know.
 
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So that's what I'm doing wrong, I guess I should stop buying engagement rings after the first email.

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MicMan is offline MicMan Post #9  April 16,2010, 5:23am
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
So that's what I'm doing wrong, I guess I should stop buying engagement rings after the first email.
Your problem is you're using the 25-cent machine. You really should be going to at least the 50-cent machine if you're going to be serious.
 
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DancingFool wrote :
Sure seems like it doesn't it? Just looking at all the anxious posts on these boards about how they are e-mailing with someone and they quit - the stress and anxiety is the equivalent of the fall of a long term relationship, yet it's all over a complete stranger they've never even met before and don't even know.
Back on topic...in a way, I can understand the building some people get from an email stage, especially if they're eager for a relationship or haven't been in a relationship for awhile. Unfortunately, at the same time, they're building up these unrealistic expectations about what the relationship is and who the person they are communicating is.
 
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