Georgetheman is offline Georgetheman Post #1  April 15,2010, 11:38am
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I don't know if anyone remembers my posts a while ago, when I started dating someone and it got off to a rocky start. Here's a little refresher... a few days after I asked her out, she called in tears and said she still had a boyfriend, whom she then broke up with to be with me. I was upset about this (naturally) and came here for advice. She's "the cello player", if that rings a bell haha.

Anyway, we have been together for about 3 months now and things are very good. She fell for me very quickly. It took me a little longer, and this caused a little tension. But I was gone for a week over Spring Break (I see her almost every day because of school and proximity to each other), and after this I realized I was pretty attached to her. Our relationship has settled into a relaxed, comfortable place and I can tell how a lot of our insecurities about each other have fallen away. E.g. I am quite comfortable telling her I can't see her tonight because I need time to myself, whereas before I would have done everything possible to prove my interest to her. For her, I can tell she is no longer afraid of "messing up" and "losing me", problems of hers she had mentioned before. I am not naive enough to think these problems and others will never return, but at this point, our communication has been excellent in resolving these problems, even if it will turn out to be only temporary. It's the quality of our communication about problems that makes me think there is long-term potential here. Everything else is there--intense physical chemistry , similar sense of humor, both very laid-back, offer each other a lot of love and care, similar values and faith, just laugh at each other's farts, etc. etc.

Anyway, I know it's still very early, and the naysayers will find some reason that I should dump her, but I just wanted to share a little story to brighten your day. We are both young, it's springtime (finally), it's just great to be in love!
 
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Go George! Yay! Enjoy.

Thanks for the update!
 
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Can_I_just_be_Jo is offline Can_I_just_be_Jo Post #3  April 15,2010, 11:53am

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Can we still say congrats if we forgot? Just kidding I remember and that is great.
 
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Yup.. If I recall correctly, she was the sister of a friend from church or something?

Good for you George..

Have a great summer of love!
 
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Georgetheman is offline Georgetheman Post #5  April 15,2010, 12:09pm
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Thanks guys!

Yes, she is the sister of someone who played some music with me, who showed up later at my church.
 
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I remember you! Great news!
 
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hankscorpio is offline hankscorpio Post #7  April 15,2010, 1:50pm

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Georgetheman wrote :
she still had a boyfriend, whom she then broke up with to be with me.
Just keep an eye out and an ear to the ground. I've learned from experience that women who will behave in this fashion will repeat the behavior without a second thought.
 
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Congratulations.
 
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Georgetheman is offline Georgetheman Post #9  April 16,2010, 8:06am
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hankscorpio wrote :
Just keep an eye out and an ear to the ground. I've learned from experience that women who will behave in this fashion will repeat the behavior without a second thought.
Thanks, but it works better when I trust her.
 
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