This guy TOTALLY duped me! :(...

So, I met this guy on e-Harmony. We went out on two dates. By the second date, our chemistry completely clicked. He kept telling me over and over how much he couldn't wait to see me again.

Then, for 5 days the week after, I went to Florida on vacation with my best friend. Here's where things got intense:

We had non-stop, intense text messaging and phone conversations the whole time. He told me that he was completely taken back by me and that he hadn't felt this way about a girl since he was in high school. He started asking every question about me under the sun, gave me a "pet" name, and even asked me to quit smoking because "he wants me around." It was non-stop romance. He completely opened up to me and told me that he was scared of getting hurt. It also seemed like non-stop sincerity. We even agreed to pursue this with each other and stop seeing the other people we had been seeing. He begged me to come up and see him the night I got back from vacation, and I did. It was one hell of an incredible night.

The next day, I was exhausted. I started getting a vibe from him though. I wasn't getting the same lovey-dovey text messages anymore. So, I was getting turned off by his change in attitude. He called me drunk the next night saying that he had run into a girl he had dated for a while and that it brought back bad memories after they sat and talked for an hour.

So, last night, he starts to tell me that I'm too intense and that he doesn't want to do this anymore. It was like, he was one person this weekend and a completely different person now. I feel like a fool, and I'm confused and heartbroken over this.

I can't explain the intensity over those five days while I was away, but it was there. We communicated non-stop. What happened here? Was this guy just playing games with me? Did he just have a change of heart? He went from blowing me away to dropping me like a hot potato, and it hurts really bad.

Why would he do this to me? Why would he go out of his way to spill his heart out to me, get all mushy with me, and make future plans with me just to turn around and do this? Plus, he kept telling me over and over again how he didn't want to mess this up with me and how he wants to get to know the real me and get to know everything about me.

I'm sick to my stomach over this whole thing.

And, he even tried to turn it around on me and called me "smothering" when he was clearly the one all over me from the beginning! How dare he? It seems to dishonest and unfair. I don't get it. At all.

I know it seems crazy for me to be upset about this whole thing that came and went so fast, but if you knew the conversations we had: they were amazing. He made me feel like the most special girl in the whole world. He really did.

It was as if he ended up being one person for those first 7 days and then a completely different person the last 3 days. I don't get it.

What happened here?

...for every good one their are 20 who want nothing more than to get what they want and leave as fast as they can and frankly we are raised to do just that...

It sounds like he might be bipolar.

eeew i wonder if that kind of thing is the explanation for a lot of guys....

That's funny you say that! He told me that he has terrible mood swings and that he wasn't sure if I could deal with his mood changes. Hmm... interesting.