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TXButtercup is offline TXButtercup Post #1  April 14,2010, 3:13pm
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Well, today was my first face to face meeting with someone from an online dating site.

Yes, I realize I am a slow poke, but most of the folks I have been communicating with are long distance (which has worked for me in the past, so I am open to it).

We met for coffee (and for the record, I already had my money out to pay and he said "no way - I'm old fashioned." I said I was just trying to be fair.) and talked, then took a walk in a nearby park. It was nice and the walk made it more comfortable to me, so that seems like a good possible idea for the future.

I didn't really feel that uncomfortable until one point in the "date" when he was talking about people being impetuous. I asked him if he was impetuous -- and he grabbed my head and open-mouthed kissed me. To say I was shocked would be an understatement. Man, I clearly am out of the swing of things.

But overall, getting back out there wasn't that scary. I think I might even do it again.
Last edited by TXButtercup; April 14,2010 at 3:14pm. Reason: oh, and I got a text later that said I was "yummy" and "sexy as hell" - that's a good thing, right?
 
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okay so what muscles do i need to work to deliver a solid knock out punch?
 
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Well, that's a mite too forward for me, and it's sounds as though you are not entirely comfortable with it either.
 
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LOL - well, I am getting much better at push ups in my boot camp class


- might have been my fault you know. Using my learning from these boards, I wore a sundress with a sheer blouse tied over it - seemed to be a hit...
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TXButtercup wrote :
A toe back in the water
A big toe or a little toe?


TXButtercup wrote :
But overall, getting back out there wasn't that scary. I think I might even do it again.

With the same man?
 
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Way to go! High five!
 
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Did you kiss him back?
 
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D_Lion wrote :
A big toe or a little toe?
Either way - they were all nicely painted - red, in fact


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With the same man?
Hmmmnnn......

I will say that I now know what the other women mean about having to process after a date. He seems like a nice person and conversation was fairly easy. But I am thinking it over....

A sexually aggressive man in a relationship is a wonderful thing
but in a first date scenario....well, I'm just not sure what to make of it. Maybe he was just trying to make an impression. He did. And I did tell him it made me a bit uncomfortable and wasn't expecting that.

But ya gotta remember - it has been a really long time since I had a first date before this.
 
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TXButtercup wrote :
But ya gotta remember - it has been a really long time since I had a first date before this.
And maybe it has been a really long time since your date kissed someone... and here you're: dress, red toenails...
 
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TXButtercup wrote :
A sexually aggressive man in a relationship is a wonderful thing
but in a first date scenario....well, I'm just not sure what to make of it. Maybe he was just trying to make an impression. He did. And I did tell him it made me a bit uncomfortable and wasn't expecting that.

If the person showed willingness / ability to modify his behavior in light of your feedback, I think a situation like this is worth continuing with them.

Personally, I think it would be pure, dumb luck for a first meeting to "feel perfect" - and not indicative of the future, anyway.

I have come around to the view that an unrequited Kiss is a sign of disinterest from the woman. A man not going for the Kiss is often seen as a sign of his disinterest in her.

Thus, if the Kiss is not welcomed, that only gives confirmation of her disinterest (which I actively seek before parting), and if it is welcomed, great.
 
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