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Dasil is offline Dasil Post #1  April 14,2010, 12:09am
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Hi again,

So I asked a girl on a date, and she agreed. This is my first date ever, so I'm completely inexperienced.

During the conversation, what are some good ways to:
1. Increase her overall interest in me
2. Not make it seem like an interrogation while trying to get to know her

I'm not the best conversationalist, so this really isn't my strongest area.

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She'll most likely be nervous as well so just relax and be yourself. You'll be surprised how quickly time flies by once you get started talking and find things you are both interested in.
Good luck with it.
 
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Hi Dasil
She said yes to the date so that's a great start. It is just a first date so try to keep things light and focus on more general topics of conversation such as your hobbies, places of interest you've visited etc and asking her in return; that way you don't risk 'interrogating' her.

You could try visualing yourself on the date before you go, as if you're watching a movie of yourself where you look relaxed and at ease, and she is smiling!

Have a great time and very best of luck.
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Think of it as making a new friend.. a friend you treat respectfully. :P
 
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Whatever you do, don't take "it" out, Dasil.

Seriously, though, just relax, be yourself and have fun. That's what impresses a woman and raises her interest level in you. Be you! And if you feel a special vibe from her, go for that smooch, mate!
 
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Dasil wrote :
During the conversation, what are some good ways to:
1. Increase her overall interest in me
2. Not make it seem like an interrogation while trying to get to know her
To increase her interest in you, talk about the things you find interesting. Don't be afraid to be enthusiastic about those things.

To not make it seem like an interrogation, ask open-ended questions (what and how questions) and pay attention to not only the facts but also the feelings that go along with the answers.

Try to ensure that you each get a roughly equal amount of talking time and listening time.
 
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To relieve the "interview" type setting go do something rather than just sit and stare at each other over dinner or coffee table. Go see a comedy show, or a live band or a museum or some cute antique shops or whatever interests you both. It will give you an opportunity to just be around each other, but also topics to talk about that come out naturally from what you are observing. Also, it will allow for comfortable silence as you are participating/watching whatever rather than desperately trying to fill every single moment with conversation. There is a big difference between someone sitting and telling you that they like this type of music and actually sitting and enjoying the music and talking a bit about it.
 
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If she did not feel instant "chemistry" in the first 5 seconds then it will not make any difference what you say or do.
 
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Ask her about herself, without getting too personal. For example what are her favorite movies, music, food, TV shows, books, hobbies, etc. But don't ask about past boyfriends or things like that.

Comment on what she says, so it's not just you rattling off a list of questions. "Oh, you like Such&Such Band, too? Have you heard their new CD? It has some really good bagpipe playing on it!"

Also notice if she asks anything about you.

And don't worry about trying to increase her interest level. She'll either be interested or not, and trying to increase that is an advanced topic.

Also don't worry about the outcome of the date. Don't pin all your hopes on her falling for you. Realize you're young and there are plenty of other girls out there, and it sometimes takes a while to find the right one.
 
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