Why do seemingly ALL women wear the SAME outfit when on dates? Why no variation?


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friendlyguy136015501080 is offline friendlyguy136015501080 Post #1  April 13,2010, 8:37am
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This outfit is worn by many (most, of whom I see around me) women when out on a date, especially in autumn, winter, and early spring, although not unheard of in summer, either.

The outfit consists of a sweater or some other dressy top that's really pretty, gorgeous dress shoes, sometimes even with a several inch high stiletto heel, with blue jeans, with only minor variations in shade of blue.

I am not criticizing this outfit in any way, nor am I suggesting that I feel women "should" be wearing something else. I am simply wondering something, hoping to understand women a little better. I know this isn't anything big, but doesn't every little bit help?

I do notice that almost no two women are wearing the same pair of shoes, nor the same top; however, nearly all women are wearing the same pants basically, except for small variations in shade.

It makes sense to me that dress pants aren't the major choice, so I am not even asking why I don't see more of those. Most of these women want to be casual, so I am not even wondering why. However, given the wide variety in footwear and tops, I am wondering why there is not a somewhat equal variety in casual pants. For example, why do I not see some blue jeans, and some black jeans, and some tan jeans, and some brown jeans, and some (other color) jeans, and some tan khakis.

If you are a woman, and the blue jeans with the dressy top and dressy footwear is your choice of outfit on dates, would you mind shedding some light as to why blue jeans specifically is your choice of casual pants all the time?

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Also, if you choose blue jeans specifically because they go with everything, why is this your choice over tan khakis, specifically, which also goes with everything, as well as can also be dressed up as well as worn casually?

Again, I am not criticizing your choice, nor am I saying that one of the other alternatives "should" be your choice. I am simply trying to understand you a little better, at least in this area.
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #2  April 13,2010, 8:45am
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You wonder why they wear the same thing and then wonder why different colors of jeans?
Its called fashion. Though I havent noticed that in this neck of the woods. Women do look at whats in and are forced to buy what is on the racks.
In other words. You are stuck with what colors the designers have chosen for that season. And I am not liking the lime greens and oranges of this season and no one can make me wear them.
Thats another thread though.
Seems you are dating those who care about fashion. Not a bad thing.
O and the shoes. Thats an individuals expression.
 
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Interesting question.

Perhaps the jeans are all a variation on blue because that's what's available these days. Black jeans haven't been in style since the early 90's, though they are occasionally shown in some of the higher-end stores. Tan and brown denims are generally not available in most fashion-focused stores (i.e. Gap, Banana Republic, etc.), though I'd wager you could find them in places that sell more 'utilitarian' clothing (Sears, Lands End, etc.).

As for the khakis, I normally don't consider them as date wear for women, maybe because they're not as shapely as a flattering pair of jeans. Well, and I have to press them, too, which is another step.

Another thing you might want to consider is that when two items of the outfit are dressy (the top and shoes, in the case you mention), they need to be balanced out by something neutral (the jeans). Otherwise, the outfit looks like a costume or just plain overkill.

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Oh yeah, since there is sooo much variation in mens wardrobes.
 
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friendlyguy136015501080 wrote :
several inch high stiletto heel.

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scarlet13 wrote :
Oh yeah, since there is sooo much variation in mens wardrobes.

Yesterday I wore my cap backwards.
Today it's sideways.
 
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Women wear whatever is currently "in", i.e. whatever designers and buyers for stores decided will be available for any given season.

As for khakis....really? They are horribly unflattering even on men.
 
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DancingFool wrote :
Women wear whatever is currently "in", i.e. whatever designers and buyers for stores decided will be available for any given season.

As for khakis....really? They are horribly unflattering even on men.
True...I've never worn khakis or jeans on a first date. Not flattering for a short women like myself.

Skirts or skorts are best for me.
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
Oh yeah, since there is sooo much variation in mens wardrobes.
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Yesterday I wore my cap backwards.
Today it's sideways.
Yesterday I wore my Levi's. I like the fit so I'm wearing them again today.
 
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Dark blue is a slimming color, blue jeans feel safe and comfortable and are warm on a cold day. They are our friends. Generally speaking they make our butts look really good and we know you are looking at our butts.

Personally, I own one pair of jeans and they are sort of a charcoal black color but they fit me really well. I wear them a lot when I am in a cold climate. I alternate with black leggings and also black tights worn with sweater dresses.

Khakis are just not cool; no woman in her right mind would wear them on a first date unless it was an African safari date and she had some really cool khakis just for that purpose. The only other time would be in the summer when she might wear more of an Audrey Hepburn capri style cropped khakis but I still don't think this would be a first choice. I would probably go with a skirt in that situation... and we are not talking about warm weather dressing here, anyway.

If you are going to wear a jazzy top you want kind of a neutral pant. Jeans can be dressed up and dressed down. As you have noticed one pair of blue jeans can be worn with countless tops. There is not much point in having a pair of jeans that can be only worn with one top.

Lets see the problems with different colors of jeans (beside the problem that mostly only blue is available.) Please keep in mind this is only what I feel about these colors. A woman with a really perfect tiny body might be fine in yellow jeans, also someone who is really artsy or much braver than I might not have these same qualms:

blue - good, slimming, flattering color to most skin types, readily available
yellow - makes the bottom half look enormous, some skin does not look good in yellow, I would feel like a clown or very fat Big Bird
orange - same as yellow
turquoise - same as yellow and orange
red - makes the bottom half look even more enormous on most women, too bright, makes us feel self-conscious
black - good but can seem a little severe sometimes
white - good but really mainly for summer but can also make butts look big
brown - I have honestly never seen a pair of brown jeans but I might buy them if I did
tan - just doesn't have the slimming qualities that a darker color does
green - if dark it wouldn't be too bad, probably would look great on redheads if it was the right color for their skin coloring
purple - would make a you look like a teenager wannabe
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