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The topic should read "Do women really want men they can't have?"

Is it possible that some men can make it too easy for a woman because they know that he's always going to be "available" especially if things don't work out with her and her current boyfriend? And, if the guy starts dating other women or pursues a relationship, the woman will find him more desirable and/or attractive because he's not as attainable? Ladies, is this true?
 
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Hell yea its true ! I have heard this countless times from females.
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Magnet4longdistance, he's not asking if women are always looking for someone else. He's asking if women are more attracted to guys who are single (and make themselves overly available in an "I'll wait for you" sense) or more attracted to guys who are "taken."

Beatlejuice, studies show that women are more attracted to guys who are already taken. Why? Because they've proven they're "relationship material." Those guys have already passed the test, just with another woman. So a guy in a relationship is much more attractive to a woman than a single guy (especially if that single guy seems needy).
 
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chimerical wrote :
Magnet4longdistance, he's not asking if women are always looking for someone else. He's asking if women are more attracted to guys who are single (and make themselves overly available in an "I'll wait for you" sense) or more attracted to guys who are "taken."

Beatlejuice, studies show that women are more attracted to guys who are already taken. Why? Because they've proven they're "relationship material." Those guys have already passed the test, just with another woman. So a guy in a relationship is much more attractive to a woman than a single guy (especially if that single guy seems needy).
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beatlejuice72 wrote :
The topic should read "Do women really want men they can't have?"

Is it possible that some men can make it too easy for a woman because they know that he's always going to be "available" especially if things don't work out with her and her current boyfriend?
well, yes. Seen it - never seen it end well myself.
And, if the guy starts dating other women or pursues a relationship, the woman will find him more desirable and/or attractive because he's not as attainable? Ladies, is this true?
There are a fair few women out there who like the chase of somebody who is "unattainable" from what I've seen...(men too, mind you)
Speaking for myself, nope. If a man that I might consider "desirable" if he were single is in fact involved with somebody, I immediately file him under "unavailable" and move on. Of course, personally I don't play the game of "let's have somebody hanging on just in case I decide I don't want to date my current boyfriend"...I think that is pretty dishonest. Either stay in or get out, but don't play games of "what if" and involve other people in your drama. It would seem to me that there is no genuine feeling for your partner in that case.
 
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chimerical wrote :
Magnet4longdistance, he's not asking if women are always looking for someone else. He's asking if women are more attracted to guys who are single (and make themselves overly available in an "I'll wait for you" sense) or more attracted to guys who are "taken."

Beatlejuice, studies show that women are more attracted to guys who are already taken. Why? Because they've proven they're "relationship material." Those guys have already passed the test, just with another woman. So a guy in a relationship is much more attractive to a woman than a single guy (especially if that single guy seems needy).
I have seen one very poorly done and ungeneralizable study that got a lot of publicity that claims this. Can you direct us to some meaningful evidence that supports this assertion?

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thats the whole problem with dating. You HAVE to play games constantly or you get left out in the cold, as I am. Women will always judge a guy constantly, on every single thing you do, how you do it, when you do it, and then they will come on a forum and ask total strangers why you did it, and make decision on the relationship based off what the strangers say instead of just asking you directly. If you make yourself too available then women think you are clingy, if you keep yourself at a distance, they think you are not attracted to them. Women are never satisfied with anything. Look at the new AXE commercial where the guys appearance keeps changing, to further his relationship with the girl, and the announcer says "because women get bored easily" its a KNOWN fact, so any semi- intelligent women that disagrees is flat out lying.
 
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Hell yea its true ! I have heard this countless times from females. They are never satisified, they always are keeping an eye out for greener pastures, and they always try to keep a backup in play. Any women that denies this is either naive and has no social life, is not bright eough to realize her friends do it, or is just plain lying , which will be the most common response on any forum from typical females.
Come on now, you act like men aren't the same way too. Both men and women in relationships will continue looking for greener pastures if what they have isn't "all that". If you have a problem with women always looking for someone else while they're dating you then maybe you need to revise your strategy.

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Beatlejuice, studies show that women are more attracted to guys who are already taken. Why? Because they've proven they're "relationship material." Those guys have already passed the test, just with another woman. So a guy in a relationship is much more attractive to a woman than a single guy (especially if that single guy seems needy).
I don't think that being in a relationship proves anything about the guy. I know quite a few men in relationships that women would consider not "relationship material". This whole idea about a test is retarded too, what's wrong with giving the guy a chance, there's no need for a checklist follow your heart. If you're going to cheat and get the answers to the "test" from another women how do you know the answers are correct? She could have easily failed. Your chances of finding the right guy is no different if the guy is currently in a relationship or single.

These are the same kind of people who have an affair with a married person, fall in love, and then expect this behavior to NOT happen again.

"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein
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Let's say "mate-poaching."

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thats the whole problem with dating. You HAVE to play games constantly or you get left out in the cold, as I am. Women will always judge a guy constantly, on every single thing you do, how you do it, when you do it, and then they will come on a forum and ask total strangers why you did it, and make decision on the relationship based off what the strangers say instead of just asking you directly. If you make yourself too available then women think you are clingy, if you keep yourself at a distance, they think you are not attracted to them. Women are never satisfied with anything. Look at the new AXE commercial where the guys appearance keeps changing, to further his relationship with the girl, and the announcer says "because women get bored easily" its a KNOWN fact, so any semi- intelligent women that disagrees is flat out lying.
Wow...really?

Okay...if I were try to bring it down a notch, and get this topic back to where any "semi-intelligent man" would understand, I would use your analogy about commercialis and the media and look at all the male celebrities that are married to great women who seemingly have to change their appearances to keep up with the idea of youth that they believe men desire based on commercialism and how the media portrays women. The Housewives of OC and NY come to mind...but there are more than ample examples of women who seem to feel the need to keep up with the appearance of youth because in their minds all "men become easily bored" (plastic surgeons will never go broke..that's for sure!)...and let's not forget men who are married to beautiful, women but never seem to get enough and wind up cheating on their very famous...totally humiliated... gorgeous...youthful wives.

Get my drift?...broad generalizations never help when gender wars are on the horizon. How about some calm, rational talk about how maybe some women (or some of the women you've met) think this very skewed way?

...and for goodness sakes...turn off that darn t.v., and stay away from commercials!...sheesh...

No studies here...just keeping your analogy intact and trying to make heads or tails of your post. (*wink*)
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