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So I had a nice date with a guy on Thursday and the next morning I sent him a short thank you via text. He responded the same and that he'd talk to me soon. Then today I find he'd sent me a text message around 6 pm asking how my day had been. I'm curious if maybe the guys can explain this phenomenon - if you were really interested why wouldn't you take 5 minutes to call? I don't want to get into a pattern of texting, any ideas how to nip it in the bud?
 
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bella8bella wrote :
So I had a nice date with a guy on Thursday and the next morning I sent him a short thank you via text. He responded the same and that he'd talk to me soon. Then today I find he'd sent me a text message around 6 pm asking how my day had been. I'm curious if maybe the guys can explain this phenomenon - if you were really interested why wouldn't you take 5 minutes to call? I don't want to get into a pattern of texting, any ideas how to nip it in the bud?
So you are complaining that he texted instead of called when you texted instead of called? If you want to end the pattern simply call him yourself. Sounds to me he was just following your lead on that one.
 
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So you are complaining that he texted instead of called when you texted instead of called? If you want to end the pattern simply call him yourself. Sounds to me he was just following your lead on that one.
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bella8bella wrote :
So I had a nice date with a guy on Thursday and the next morning I sent him a short thank you via text. ... Then today I find he'd sent me a text message ... if you were really interested why wouldn't you take 5 minutes to call?
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Yep.

Ignore the text message and never send one yourself.
 
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If it turns out this is his preferred mode of communication ot get to know you, then you could be right to complain.

But I don't think you should be so quick to judgment just yet. Maybe he just used that as an opening line to say hi, and then if you would respond, he'd then ask if you were available to talk. Or maybe he'll say, "Sorry I don't have time to chat but just wanted to check in with you" -- to show he cares.

I'd say you don't have anything to complain about yet.
 
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Actually he sent the first text the night of the date. I sent one the day after to say thank you. In his reply he said talk to you soon..
 
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That he said "talk" ought not to be judged.

When I say "talk," I mean in person. Perhaps he meant the (infernal) text message?

Anyhow, point stands: ignore it and "talk" when you can talk in person.
 
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bella8bella wrote :
So I had a nice date with a guy on Thursday and the next morning I sent him a short thank you via text. He responded the same and that he'd talk to me soon. Then today I find he'd sent me a text message around 6 pm asking how my day had been. I'm curious if maybe the guys can explain this phenomenon - if you were really interested why wouldn't you take 5 minutes to call? I don't want to get into a pattern of texting, any ideas how to nip it in the bud?
You started it by texting him. If you had wanted to not get into a pattern of texting then you should have picked up the phone and called him to thank him!
 
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If I don't eventually respond to his text message then he might think I don't want anything to do with him. At the same time I don't want us to get caught in a text circle. Ideas?
 
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