"That kiss didn't mean anything"


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Navigator733 is offline Navigator733 Post #1  April 8,2010, 6:28pm
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I don't know if this has been mentioned previously, but I figured I'd post anyway.

This happened this past Monday: I had a long, intimate talk with a girl I know at a diner, one on one. I had been slightly attracted to her for a while but never seriously considered dating. We got to know each other very well that night and I felt a real connection. After talking in the parking lot, I asked if I could kiss her, and she said yes, leading into a long, long kiss. I didn't expect it to happen, nor did I expect it to be so passionate. We parted ways a few minutes later, and I had the impression that we would were in a relationship now.

I saw her yesterday at a play rehearsal we're both a part of, and she told me that she just kissed me because she "wanted to know what it was like to kiss you." She wasn't interested in a relationship. For her the kiss, however long and involved, was a casual thing, not serious at all. I took that very hard.

I know some people do that, but I'm just not one of those people. I never throw my kisses away, it's an expression of my affection and my passion and I only do it if I feel a real connection with that person.

How do others feel about this? Would you casually kiss someone - with tongue and everything - that you're not on a date with, and just walk away as if it meant nothing at all? Personally I don't understand it, but I would like to, if just so I don't let myself get pulled into it again.
 
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I have to say, I think you messed up.

You asked to Kiss, she Kissed you. Then, you let her walk away?

Jeez.
 
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You know, I'm not into passionate kisses with someone that I don't feel a real connection with, but it's not really a big deal to a lot of people.

However, a kiss does not a relationship make....
 
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Well, at that point it was 1:30 am and we both had to get up at 6. We talked for a few minutes, about talking while she would be in georgia for a month, exchanged phone numbers, that sort of thing. Then had to go, though I did kiss her again (no asking this time) before she reminded me we both had to leave.
 
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Yeah I think you should have tried to get her into bed on this one. Sorry
 
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If you like this woman, and want to go out, you should seal that deal now.

Invite her for a date, and then say no more to her until and unless she accepts.
 
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No. I do not give fully involved kisses away.

To me... its one of the most intimate things you can do (don't want to be crass, but there's a reason most 'professionals' won't kiss on the lips).

Run away from this woman.
 
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phoenix888 wrote :
Run away from this woman.
dont you think he should at least try to get laid first?
 
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phoenix888 wrote :
Run away from this woman.
dont you think he should at least try to get la!d first?
 
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phoenix888 wrote :
most 'professionals' won't kiss on the lips

I recommend dating professional accountants instead.
 
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