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Atlguy38 is offline Atlguy38 Post #1  April 8,2010, 11:45am
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This is an interesting story. A few months ago I was in a weekend seminar (Landmark, for those who may know of it). I met a woman in there and became friends with her on Facebook. But I really don't know her outside of that weekend. A few weeks ago, she sent me a message asking me how I would like an all expenses paid trip to Cancun, no strings attached. So I called her to find out the details. She told me that a single co-wrorker of hers won a trip for exceeding sales goals in the company. Tells me she's attractive, early 30's, etc. She said they have restrictions on who they can bring (must be a spouse or bf/gf). So I said I would think about it and would like to talk to this woman. A few days later, I got a call from her and we talked. We've exchanged pictures, but I'm not sure if she's my "type". Hard to say from the pictures. But we've had great conversations on the phone over the past 3 weeks. We're staying in the same hotel room (not sure how many beds) in Cancun. The trip is in 2 weeks, and we'll be there 4 days.

So what do you guys think? Am I making a mistake here? I don't think I am, but you never know. But how should I act when I'm there? Should I just treat her as a friend, be flirty, or what? I have no expectations, but sex would be nice, as its been so long (haven't been with anyone since my ex-wife).
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #2  April 8,2010, 11:49am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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I wouldn't treat this any differently than a first date with someone met through a dating site. Meaning....I wouldn't do it. Not for a first meeting. There are too many things that could go wrong.
 
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Atlguy38 is offline Atlguy38 Post #3  April 8,2010, 11:51am
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I already have the ticket and its a free trip. I am going, unless the new passport doesn't arrive in time.
 
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Okay ... so a woman you barely know has gotten you a free trip, sharing a hotel room with a woman you don't know at all? In another country?

I could be totally off base here, but it smells fishy to me. Run, Forrest, run!

And if you do decide to go, find a way to secure your valuables while you're sleeping.
 
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DancingFool is offline DancingFool Post #5  April 8,2010, 11:54am
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hmmm....have you ever managed to write a single post without mentioning your ex wife? Do you even realize that your ex is taking up 100% of your brain space???....Sorry side note...

An even better question is why haven't you met in person at this point and what's stopping you from meeting before the trip? It seems really strange to me that she actually offered something like that to a complete stranger....but you never know sometimes.......

As to your question, have fun, be cautious, play it by ear and see how things go if you chose to go.

OK....had to add this....I'm fairly adventurous and have done my fair share of crazy things....but even for me....this seems a bit off color.....
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Atlguy38 wrote :
sex... (haven't been with anyone since my ex-wife).
I think that about says it all. good luck, Casanova.
 
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I mean really, what's the very, very worst that could happen . . . h mm mm m . .. .

still thinking . . .

but, heck, I'm with you. I'm going. I'm a risk taker. free trip. you might live to have a couple of awesome stories.

might . . .
 
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You know, I am paranoid. I do believe that if something sounds too good to be true, it usually is. However, in this case, I have no concerns except whether there will be mutual attraction. But even that isn't a big concern. I know its a risk, but life's short, and I haven't had any fun in 2 years. Time to live life again.
 
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Atlguy38 wrote :
I already have the ticket and its a free trip. I am going, unless the new passport doesn't arrive in time.
Have fun with her and the other 5 guys she has invited.
 
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Atlguy38 is offline Atlguy38 Post #10  April 8,2010, 11:58am
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Dancingfool, you're wrong, its not 100% anymore. Its more like 20% (and thats anger, not pining). Things are much better now that I'm working again and am getting my life back.
 
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