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AngelNrse2 is offline AngelNrse2 Post #1  April 5,2010, 2:53pm
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Hi everyone...this is my first time posting on this board.

I am posing this question because I seriously am starting to think that there is something wrong with me. I have been on eH for about 6 months. The only men that seem to respond to me are either completely not my type or ones who are not seriously looking for a relationship. I am very up front and honest about myself. I have 3 children. I want to find someone that can be my best friend and hopefully the love of my life. I was married before and have learned from the mistakes we both made in that relationship. I just feel like there is something about me that men just don't respond to. I'm getting really discouraged with my experiences with eH so far. Everyone that I feel like I connect with closes the match without even giving me a chance.

So that leads me to the big question.... Is there something wrong with me?

Thanks for any responses to help! Laura
 
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There's something wrong with all of us, so it's not just you.

I wonder how you're determining this: "completely not my type or ones who are not seriously looking for a relationship".

Do they come out and tell you they don't want a relationship, or are you assuming that from something else?

How much contact do you have with someone before making the above assessment?
 
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Very few viable contacts are normal (I'd say 1% of my matches, maybe, are even worth trying to get to know.)

(After all, you wouldn't expect to be compatible with every person in the grocery store at any given time, either.)

I agree with the above - not to be too quick to make assumptions.
 
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Some of the men that I have had contact with, either through email or phone calls have misrepresented themselves. One was still married and was saying he was single in his profile. Another was just "playing the field". And yes, that was the direct quote. I'm not making quick assumptions..... if they didn't say these things to me, I would not have come to that conclusion.
 
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If only I had the answer to this so common question. I'd be filthy rich.
In other words, your not alone.
 
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AngelNrse2 is offline AngelNrse2 Post #6  April 5,2010, 3:13pm
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I'm just not a game player and I am really looking for a good guy. I just can't come to any other conclusion than to think that there is something about me that attracts these kind of men.
 
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lots of those types of guys are numbers guys. they send numerous emails to see who will bite.
 
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Hi Laura,

Welcome! I live in Australia and I got closed out for distance and other all the time. Once I got closed out for age difference, presumably I was too old at 33 for he at 36. lol - that one did make me giggle! I believe that EH is not for all and stopped using the service after a few months.

One thing that my (very limited) experience with EH and the past 13 months on EHA Boards have taught me ... I feel I am clearer now as to what I am looking for and flaws I may need to work on in order to get my goal. If that makes any sense?

Meri.
 
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I don't know. I do think there are a certain number of men that have already had the ever-after once and don't want to be financially or emotionally liable for another person just yet.

But I am not convinced the guy that said "playing the field" meant he was like one of the guys described above or if he was responding to a question from you that felt "probing" so he was trying to be vague and non-specific to you.
 
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Thanks for all your responses....it's nice to know I'm not alone in this.

I've also been closed out for distance by guys who are in the same town as me. That actually makes me laugh. I would have rather had them put "other". Or make a blank space so they can write the real reason. At least I would know that way.

I hope it gets better. Thanks everyone!
 
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