just_cause is offline just_cause Post #1  April 5,2010, 6:36am
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i tried to post this yesterday but cannot find my message anywhere. i am a bit technologically inept.

i have a situation that i hope you can all assist on. i have had 6 outings with a guy since january. we both have busy work schedules that include international travel so that would be the reason for the few dates. when we do go out we have a great time and typically spend 3/4 hours together.

we have been ending dates with ackward hugs but no kiss. i think there is chemistry and he keeps asking me out. most of our dates are activity based (dog walking, bike riding, roller blading) and i'm not into public displays of affection so i wonder if he gets that vibe?

what would you recommend? thank you.
 
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pds857 is offline pds857 Post #2  April 5,2010, 7:06am
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Ummm.
My First thought is for you to 'take the bull my the horns'
so to speak. But thats hard for a lot of people to do.

So if ya dont feel comfortable in makin the first kiss move,
pull him aside some where that isnt so crowded, an talk bout
it.

Find a way to bring it up in conversation. Like, I like ya an I'm
jus curious what kissin you would feel like. Or wow your lips
look sooo soft! Can I feel em? An lay a lip smacker on em! lol

Oh sorry, I could see it in my head got excited.

PDA isnt Wrong. But there are Levels of PDA that are
acceptable in some areas.

Holdin hands usually leads to the smoochy smoooze.
Eye contact an lingerin gazes sometimes lead to em.

But as far as PDA goes, either find a secluded spot to start off
with or dont worry bout PDA until your relationship really takes
off.


Myself, open an honest gets me further than jus holdin it all
inside an leavin it bottled up with no release. Because soon ya
start to resent the fact that he's not readin ya mind. I dont know
why, but some women do this like a fella can help it.
 
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Iconography is offline Iconography Post #3  April 5,2010, 7:21am
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pds has good ideas. Do you stand or sit closer to him than you would to other people who are "just friends"? Make more prolonged eye contact? Touch his arm, say, when you're talking?

And try to make those hugs less awkward. I wonder... why are they awkward? Is it because one or both of you really wants to kiss?
 
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just_cause wrote :
i tried to post this yesterday but cannot find my message anywhere. i am a bit technologically inept.

i have a situation that i hope you can all assist on. i have had 6 outings with a guy since january. we both have busy work schedules that include international travel so that would be the reason for the few dates. when we do go out we have a great time and typically spend 3/4 hours together.

we have been ending dates with ackward hugs but no kiss. i think there is chemistry and he keeps asking me out. most of our dates are activity based (dog walking, bike riding, roller blading) and i'm not into public displays of affection so i wonder if he gets that vibe?

what would you recommend? thank you.
Is there chemistry for you?

Maybe you should suggest a romantic dinner date? I dont know where you live but where I live there are lots of places by the coast or in the hills (with fire pits and a view) that would be great for that type of date. Check around in your area.
 
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Maybe I missed something here but if you are not visiting each others home AND you are not into public displays of affection then there seems little opportunity for any kissing.

Also you say awkward hugs. Is it you that feels / creates the awkwardness in the hug or is it him or both?

Also number 2, some people are just not kissers.
 
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