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alittledistraction is offline alittledistraction Post #1  April 4,2010, 10:16pm
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So this has happened to me before, and it has happened yet again. An ex has just texted me outta the blue after he broke my heart a year ago. It was a brief exchange, I didn't get the impression he wanted to get back together, but I don't understand why after a year he still has my number? When I'm done with someone, whether they ended it or I did, I turf their number and move on. I find it very unsettling to have these guys just "resurface" for no apparent reason, mostly because it stirs up past emotions that I was happy to leave in the past. So I'm just confused, how long do people keep an ex's number and why? (Besides the occasional bouts of loneliness or horniness, lol)
 
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I delete all phone no.s for that reason, no temptation...especially when single!

And we all have to move on at some stage.
 
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cardguy is offline cardguy Post #3  April 4,2010, 10:23pm
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My phone's got room for all the numbers I could ever want, so I don't see any reason to ever delete one...you never know what might come up that leaves you needing to get a hold of someone, and if nothing else it's nice to know who it is that's calling instead of seeing a random number you no longer recognize when you're picking up the phone.
 
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I usually don't delete numbers either. That way you can ignore calls from people you don't really want to talk to.
 
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I don't typically delete numbers either.

But I have had a large number of exes make contact again -- I've heard a number of reasons from them, but I don't really know what to think about it.
 
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alittledistraction is offline alittledistraction Post #6  April 4,2010, 10:37pm
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boyishgoodlooks wrote :
I delete all phone no.s for that reason, no temptation...especially when single!

And we all have to move on at some stage.
Thats mostly why I delete the numbers, I don't want to get caught up in the memories of the "good times" and get tempted, or worse yet...drunk dial someone...lol....and yes I have done that!
 
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Unless it was an incredibly messy breakup, I'd still keep phone numbers, for the same reasons that Cardguy posted. Sometimes it's good to have some contacts, especially if the breakup was clean. If there's no reason to avoid said individual, why delete their number?

And the other reason of keeping the number so you know who to avoid is also a valid point too. For those with caller ID on their phones, it allows you to quickly identify if you should just let the phone ring or not.
 
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Everyone has something that they remember especially well, I think. For me it is number strings. I'm not so very good with names, though. Off-topic, has anyone else found that it is hard to remember your own past telephone numbers ?

My theory is that the new number over writes the old in the same space of the memory.

I set about not remembering as soon as possible. This is not out of spite, I just think that people are happier knowing (assuming they are willing to attribute noble motivations) that complications are unlikely to follow. Break-ups are unpleasant enough, without the possibility of unconscionable behaviour to worry about.

This doesn't really applied to marrieds, of course, just us singletons.

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I don't usually delete a number until my phone runs out of room to store new ones, then i clear anything i'm never likely to use again, but given that my phones tend to have huge storage capacity i end up with lots of very old numbers, the same way that my drawers contain keys to houses i no longer live in and instruction manuals for appliances i no longer own.
That said though i wouldn't just text an ex out of the blue a year later, when it's over it's over, but i could see it happening if a new person had the same name and i accidentally selected the wrong one from the phonebook.
 
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I can see valid points for deleting and no deleting phone numbers.
 
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